normtowner
Junior Member
Washington State
Hello, I recently took a three week leave of abscence to support my wife while she was dealing with the death of her mother and the ensuing issues with the estate. We had to travel from Seattle, WA to Toronto, ON Canada, as her mother resided in Toronto. My head office is located in the Toronto area as well. I was asked to visit the head office and sign an agreement that I would be taking these three weeks off wthout pay, as I am the Warehouse Manager in Washington. In the meeting, my immediate supervisor and the Vice President explained to me that this was a major let down on my part as I was not thinking about the company and the sacrifices they would have to make to ensure that people were flown out to supervise my staff. They showed little or no compassion for the fact that my Mother-in-Law recently passed away. I explained to them in turn that my wife needed me in Toronto with her to help deal with the estate and the will and that if I was within locale commuting range, that I would not be asking for the leave. But, as it stands, I live 2600 miles away. The vice president then commented that my wife was a big girl and that she had to grow up sometime. The question is would that be considered a direct personal attack on my wife and would there be any recourse available?
I am also up for review and my Supervisor informed me that the leave of abscence was the main reason that I am not receiving a raise this year. I have been with the company for 23 years and feel that this is an unjust reason. This is the first time that I have asked for a leave of abscence and felt justified in doing so as I was not willing to fly back and forth 2600 miles to accomodate both my wife and work. In this situation, I feel that my wife takes presidence.
I suppose I have a second question, which is, are they justified in using the leave of abscence as an excuse to deny me a pay raise after 23 years of loyal service?
Hello, I recently took a three week leave of abscence to support my wife while she was dealing with the death of her mother and the ensuing issues with the estate. We had to travel from Seattle, WA to Toronto, ON Canada, as her mother resided in Toronto. My head office is located in the Toronto area as well. I was asked to visit the head office and sign an agreement that I would be taking these three weeks off wthout pay, as I am the Warehouse Manager in Washington. In the meeting, my immediate supervisor and the Vice President explained to me that this was a major let down on my part as I was not thinking about the company and the sacrifices they would have to make to ensure that people were flown out to supervise my staff. They showed little or no compassion for the fact that my Mother-in-Law recently passed away. I explained to them in turn that my wife needed me in Toronto with her to help deal with the estate and the will and that if I was within locale commuting range, that I would not be asking for the leave. But, as it stands, I live 2600 miles away. The vice president then commented that my wife was a big girl and that she had to grow up sometime. The question is would that be considered a direct personal attack on my wife and would there be any recourse available?
I am also up for review and my Supervisor informed me that the leave of abscence was the main reason that I am not receiving a raise this year. I have been with the company for 23 years and feel that this is an unjust reason. This is the first time that I have asked for a leave of abscence and felt justified in doing so as I was not willing to fly back and forth 2600 miles to accomodate both my wife and work. In this situation, I feel that my wife takes presidence.
I suppose I have a second question, which is, are they justified in using the leave of abscence as an excuse to deny me a pay raise after 23 years of loyal service?
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