What is considered school records

[Mommaofthree]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AL

Ex is Still harassing school officials for every little assignment. he wants to see personal notes between the teacher and myself and is trying to make decisions without consulting me in regards to my child's educational plan. She is gifted and has different curriculum than the majority of other students. I know that he is entitled to school records, but he is making the teachers, principals, and many other school officials very uncomfortable with threats and constant harassment. What exactly is he entitled to?? he receives report cards, a weekly update personally sent from the teacher, and all notices of events and whatnot... Please give me insight..Thanks

 

[BL]

He can make an appointment and review the record if he wants to be nitpicky ,otherwise he's entitled to the same basic records you are .

Why is he being hissy with the school ?

If he believes the school is not in compliance ,tell him or tell the school to tell him to send a complaint to the Compliance Office .

Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA)

 

[TheGeekess]

Section 30-3-154
Availability of records to both parents.

Unless otherwise prohibited by court order or statute, all records and information pertaining to the child, including, but not limited to, medical, physiological, dental, scholastic, athletic, extracurricular, and law enforcement, shall be equally available to both parents, in all types of custody arrangements.
(Acts 1996, No. 96-520, p. 666, §5.)

Section 30-3-154

I'd kill him with information. I'd let him in on every little bit of (trivial) information he wants. He'd have so much information that his head would spin every time he opened up his email box.

 

[Mommaofthree]

Section 30-3-154

I'd kill him with information. I'd let him in on every little bit of (trivial) information he wants. He'd have so much information that his head would spin every time he opened up his email box.

Thanks... I honestly don't know what his deal is. He hasn't asked me for one thing, but he is hammering the school. She is a straight a, benchmark student. I would understand if she were struggling or having issues, but this is bazaar. He has threatened the teacher, principal, and director of student services via email.. Thanks for the documentation there sparky.... Anyway, he can keep on bugging the school, as long as he leaves me alone.. The thing that gets me is that nothing he is doing is effecting his daughter scholastically at all. It is more a plight for control..The school just ignores him. I just wanted to make sure that I wasnt missing anything..

 

[meanyjack]

Thanks... I honestly don't know what his deal is. He hasn't asked me for one thing, but he is hammering the school. She is a straight a, benchmark student. I would understand if she were struggling or having issues, but this is bazaar. He has threatened the teacher, principal, and director of student services via email.. Thanks for the documentation there sparky.... Anyway, he can keep on bugging the school, as long as he leaves me alone.. The thing that gets me is that nothing he is doing is effecting his daughter scholastically at all. It is more a plight for control..The school just ignores him. I just wanted to make sure that I wasnt missing anything..

I would apologize to the school for your ex being a complete moron (just so they don't get ticked at you, although you're not doing it). I would also let them know that YOU are aware that they are cooperating & what your ex is doing is a little much and that, if need be, the school should pursue any appropriate legal action against your ex, if needed.

Your ex has crossed the line. IMO, if I was a teacher and an administrator at the school, I would have the district lawyers send a C&D (cease and desist) to the parent re: the threats and the schools is providing you (him) with the required information as allowed by law...but that they will no longer tolerate the constant threats against any school/district personnel -- and if it continues, then legal action would be taken (which, IMO, would be a restraining order).

 

[The_Non-Mom]

I'm curious as to what the deal is with the "personal notes". What notes are being exchanged between the OP and teacher that no one else can see? If they are regarding Daughter, then I believe Dad should be privy to the same information Mom is. If they are not about Daughter, why are they exchanging notes in the first place?

 

[LdiJ]

I'm curious as to what the deal is with the "personal notes". What notes are being exchanged between the OP and teacher that no one else can see? If they are regarding Daughter, then I believe Dad should be privy to the same information Mom is. If they are not about Daughter, why are they exchanging notes in the first place?

Its way above the call of duty to expect a teacher to hold on to a personal note from a parent, AND to send a copy of that personal note to the child's other parent. I have taught school before, and believe me, teachers don't have time for that. If its not something that goes into a child's permanent records, then its not something that the school should be required to provide to the other parent.

That would be the same as requiring a teacher to send the other parent a copy of every email he/she gets from a parent.

 

[sometwo]

Its way above the call of duty to expect a teacher to hold on to a personal note from a parent, AND to send a copy of that personal note to the child's other parent. I have taught school before, and believe me, teachers don't have time for that. If its not something that goes into a child's permanent records, then its not something that the school should be required to provide to the other parent.

That would be the same as requiring a teacher to send the other parent a copy of every email he/she gets from a parent.

and it would be just plain silly.

I communicate with the teachers at school for stepson and daughter . I don't tell my husband everything even though Im only the stepmom for one. Parties and things like that he doesn't need to know every detail. He works and Im usually the one there ( I currently work but only prn) Im also usually the one that brings stuff for the parties and many years have been the room mom for both their rooms.

Some things don't need an ellaborate coversation over or the other parent to be notified.(or yea I guess you could say either parent in my case)

 

[Mommaofthree]

and it would be just plain silly.

I communicate with the teachers at school for stepson and daughter . I don't tell my husband everything even though Im only the stepmom for one. Parties and things like that he doesn't need to know every detail. He works and Im usually the one there ( I currently work but only prn) Im also usually the one that brings stuff for the parties and many years have been the room mom for both their rooms.

Some things don't need an ellaborate coversation over or the other parent to be notified.(or yea I guess you could say either parent in my case)

Thanks... It has nothing to do with our daughter, he is still trying to control just like he did when we were married. He is an abuser. We have been to court several times for his behavior. He was acting inappropriately towards our daughter and we went to court....then he moved to acting inappropriately towards me and making false allegations against my husband..I set boundaries which havent helped much....now he has moved on to school officials and the child psychologist...when we nip that in the bud it will probably be doctors and dentists that he moves on to...I sure hope our attorney is worth her salt...I feel sorry for him...he must be so miserable on the inside..

 

[frylover]

I'm curious as to what the deal is with the "personal notes". What notes are being exchanged between the OP and teacher that no one else can see? If they are regarding Daughter, then I believe Dad should be privy to the same information Mom is. If they are not about Daughter, why are they exchanging notes in the first place?

Well, I'm a teacher and I get "personal" notes all the time that "regard" a child, and I sure don't copy the note and my response to the other parent.

"What time is the Halloween Party?"

"I lost the snack calendar; can you please send me another copy?"

"Please excuse Janie for not having her correct school shoes on; they fell in the bathtub last night. She will have them tomorrow?"

"Is it OK if I send cupcakes for Janie's birthday?"

"I just wanted to thank you for being such a great teacher. Janie just loves you!"