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flygrl

Member
What is the name of your state? OHIO

I was just signed off as the custodial parent to my two children with my X giving up his rights.

Exactly WHAT does this mean?

I have issues with his new wife. Recently, she cleaned all of their stuff out of their house and sent it home with them. They have been told that they do not have a bedroom in their dad's house - but they can stay in the guest room. She didn't greet them or speak to them the entire time they were with them this summer. It was 2 weeks at their home in CA - we live in OH. X was the one who moved.

I don't want them to have to go back to this situation again. They are happy little girls and don't deserve to be treated this way by their step mother.

My X has 5 weeks with them every summer with the new court order. Can I forbid him to take them to CA? I want them to see their father as much as they can - but I don't think they should have to be in a house where they are not wanted.

CVG
 


LdiJ

Senior Member
flygrl said:
What is the name of your state? OHIO

I was just signed off as the custodial parent to my two children with my X giving up his rights.

Exactly WHAT does this mean?

I have issues with his new wife. Recently, she cleaned all of their stuff out of their house and sent it home with them. They have been told that they do not have a bedroom in their dad's house - but they can stay in the guest room. She didn't greet them or speak to them the entire time they were with them this summer. It was 2 weeks at their home in CA - we live in OH. X was the one who moved.

I don't want them to have to go back to this situation again. They are happy little girls and don't deserve to be treated this way by their step mother.

My X has 5 weeks with them every summer with the new court order. Can I forbid him to take them to CA? I want them to see their father as much as they can - but I don't think they should have to be in a house where they are not wanted.

CVG
What exactly did you sign off on? You would have to tell us exactly what it said before we could tell you what it means. "giving up his rights"...or "signing over his rights"...is a catch all phrase that could mean any number of things.
 

flygrl

Member
"Plantiff/Fathers motion to terminate the shared parenting plan is granted and Defendant/Mother shall be custodial parent."

The rest of the document says that he has one week at Christmas and 5 weeks in the summer and one weekend a month. It does not say WHERE that is to take place.

It also says that he is repsonsible to take the children to all their activies and social events.

We are working on a modified childsupport still.
cvg
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
flygrl said:
"Plantiff/Fathers motion to terminate the shared parenting plan is granted and Defendant/Mother shall be custodial parent."

The rest of the document says that he has one week at Christmas and 5 weeks in the summer and one weekend a month. It does not say WHERE that is to take place.

It also says that he is repsonsible to take the children to all their activies and social events.

We are working on a modified childsupport still.
cvg
That means that he gets the visitation in his home. Visitation ALWAYS defaults to the parent's home unless the order states otherwise. Therefore unless you can prove that the visitation is harmful for you children, they have to go.

Maybe you should put your children into counseling. If they are being harmed by the visitation the counselor could be your best witness/advocate.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
Oh for Christ's sake, flychick. How much more are you going to do to cut Dad out of your kids' lives?
 

flygrl

Member
LOL

As much as you WANT me to be the bad person in this situation - it is just not the case.

He is the one who made the choice to move.

He is the one who volunarily gave up the children.

My concerns are for the children NOT their father!!!

They will begin counseling and I will petition the court to not let them be around her. I will find a way to protect my children. If he LETS his wife treat children like this - then maybe he doesn't deserve to be around them either.

I would NEVER marry someone who was cruel to my children.

cvg
 

rmet4nzkx

Senior Member
You are the one who needs counseling to get over your obsession re your ex and his new wife. You are the one who drove him away.

What your order means is that because he lives so far away, it is not practical to share the everyday custodal responsibilities, in part because of your lack of cooporation and interference with dad's parenting time.

The fact that they sent all your children's belongings home, simply means that your children have use of their belongings until the next visit rather than not.

This does not mean dad has given up his parnetal rights or that you can decide that he can't have visitation.

I seriously question your fitness as a parent based on your rants here. If you continue to interfere in the children's relationship with their father, you could lose custody. Quit playing games.
 

flygrl

Member
LOL I think it is hysterical how you want to cry the same story as my X - blaming everything on me..

Actually, as time goes it becomes more and more apparent to the court that I have done nothing that he has accuse me of.

For example. He is supposed to sign a paper taking his part of financial responsibility for the older child's braces which go on early next week). He has had two months to do this. Money is not an option. His being not a responsible parent IS. I have had to ask him no less than 4 times for this document otherwise the braces do not go on.

In his eyes this is harassment. Well, if he would live up to his responsiblities he would have much less contact with me.

Actually, I think it is HIM that wants to keep the contact with me!!! But he can't tell that to his wife - that is why everything is MY fault.

cvg
 

rmet4nzkx

Senior Member
flygrl said:
what do you mean?
Everyone is tired of your whining and games.
You arranged for the braces without his consent.
Now you pay.
One of these days your employer will audit your internet useage and the fact that you have abused your access to confidential flight records to stalk your EX then you will lose your job. BTW, Staliing is harassment and demonstrates your obsession.
 

flygrl

Member
rmet4nzkx said:
Everyone is tired of your whining and games.
You arranged for the braces without his consent.
Now you pay.
One of these days your employer will audit your internet useage and the fact that you have abused your access to confidential flight records to stalk your EX then you will lose your job. BTW, Staliing is harassment and demonstrates your obsession.
Once again - for the record - I didn't arrange for braces without his consent. I just went to the initial appointment to get the information to present to him so we could make a decisions TOGETHER. He is the one who blew everything out of proportion and filed contempt - as it turns out - the facts were presented and I was found NOT in contempt (and he looked like a jackass again). AND he has a responsibility to pay for the braces because HE signed the parenting plan to that effect.

One of these days my employer wil audit my internet usage and fire me???? LOL - they already audit my internet usage (as well as record all incoming and outgoing phone calls for the FAA). Basically, we are so highly trained (no I am not a flight att or gate agent), they don't care what we do as long as we are doing our job and not looking at porn!!!

LOL Oh, and as far as looking up people's flights??? They would have to fire every one of the thousands of our employees world wide - because we all look at records. It is considered totally appropriate.

I don't think that "everyone" is tired of me. Maybe it is just you - who hates to see the good parent winning for a change.

cvg
 

tigger22472

Senior Member
flygrl said:
I don't think that "everyone" is tired of me. Maybe it is just you
*raises hand and sounds like Horshack* Nope not just her... and not just her and I. I know of SEVERAL who are tired of you and your selfish games.
 

snostar

Senior Member
flygrl said:
I don't think that "everyone" is tired of me. Maybe it is just you - who hates to see the good parent winning for a change.

cvg
You can't win custody, you can only lose it.

BTW, I'm tired of your crap too.
 

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