What is suggested visitation for 23 month old boy?

[CW1021]

CALIFORINIA-Placer County (near Sacramento)

My question is about visitation for a 23 month old boy. I have been the primary caretaker of our son for the entirety of his life and his father just started to get involved in his life, for which I am so happy. I am moving away 106 miles from our son's father where I grew up and have a significantly reduced living expenses and emotional support. I will be driving miles 70% of the way to exchange our son. My question is this: what is the norm in visitation? I was thinking every weekend to his father from Saturday noon to Monday at 5pm? Is that too long for a toddler to be away from his mother? Also, people say "every other weekend" but isnt that too long to be away from his father? Would extended summer times be an option? But then he would be away from his mother too long? What is your suggestion? We are in Califorina.
Current custody arrangements are that my husband gets our son Saturdays 9am to Sunday 5pm and then Tuesday noon to Wednesday at noon. I have 72% and the father has 28%. We are a high conflict couple who keep it together for our son and in front of our son. I had not spent one night away from my son unti the court ordered so during our divorce which is halfway over. We are going into mediation for our second time and my husband is fighting the move away, yet our first mediator said I would be able to go. Also, I am trying to maintain frequent contact between father and son by this proposed visitation on weekends, and also I have a web cam so they can see each other everyday and vice versa when he has our son so I can see him as well. I would not have a problem with every other weekend, but if I would propose that to the mediator, I do not want her to think I am trying to cut frequent contact with the father. It is a catch 22. I would love your take on this. Thanks so much!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Ohiogal]

CALIFORINIA-Placer County (near Sacramento)

My question is about visitation for a 23 month old boy. I have been the primary caretaker of our son for the entirety of his life and his father just started to get involved in his life, for which I am so happy. I am moving away 106 miles from our son's father where I grew up and have a significantly reduced living expenses and emotional support. I will be driving miles 70% of the way to exchange our son. My question is this: what is the norm in visitation? I was thinking every weekend to his father from Saturday noon to Monday at 5pm? Is that too long for a toddler to be away from his mother? Also, people say "every other weekend" but isnt that too long to be away from his father? Would extended summer times be an option? But then he would be away from his mother too long? What is your suggestion? We are in Califorina.
Current custody arrangements are that my husband gets our son Saturdays 9am to Sunday 5pm and then Tuesday noon to Wednesday at noon. I have 72% and the father has 28%. We are a high conflict couple who keep it together for our son and in front of our son. I had not spent one night away from my son unti the court ordered so during our divorce which is halfway over. We are going into mediation for our second time and my husband is fighting the move away, yet our first mediator said I would be able to go. Also, I am trying to maintain frequent contact between father and son by this proposed visitation on weekends, and also I have a web cam so they can see each other everyday and vice versa when he has our son so I can see him as well. I would not have a problem with every other weekend, but if I would propose that to the mediator, I do not want her to think I am trying to cut frequent contact with the father. It is a catch 22. I would love your take on this. Thanks so much!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

The first mediator cannot give you permission to move. This is a divorce situation. Dad has seen the child every day right? Why can't he still continue frequently seeing the child
Monday Tuesday -- dad
Wednesday Thursday You
with alternating every other weekend. That way the child sees both of you the same amount of time.

 

[onebreath]

Also, if the move does get granted at some point, keep in mind that the distance you create by moving the child will ENSURE that your child will be away from you for longer periods of time than if you stayed...to make up for the frequent contact that would be lost between father and son. Father would have to travel to be at all involved in school events and activities...

and child would probably have more extended time with dad at school breaks, some holidays, summer time, etc. Also, some judges may require you be responsible for ALL the transportation.

Another thought, is when child is school aged, is it going to work to travel that distance round trip, EVERY WEEKEND? That would be hard on you and the child...lot of driving, lot of time. Child gets to dads late on Fridays, dad has to drive 100 plus miles to get child to school (if your not ordered to pick child up on Sunday nights) on Monday mornings...what time would child have to get up? I am not saying all of these things a judge will take in to consideration, but for your childs best interest, you should consider is this lifestyle best for child?