divorcebound
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? TN
This past weekend has been a tough one for me. There has been some conflict over Halloween. Halloween falls on my weekend and I told my son prior to this past weekend that if his dad and step mom did not mind I would bring them by there house to trick or treat so they could see them too. My son asked his step mom and she said its not her weekend its ours, took them out and bought costumes and everything. Then when I go to pick them up yesterday, his dad, step mom and I kinda went back and forth about Halloween. They said it was there year, Halloween is a Holiday and is in the parenting plan that I need to read my papers. I said Halloween is not a Holiday, I have read my papers and its not outlined in the parenting plan. I said I was trying to be nice so you all could see them too for Halloween since it fell on my weekend. Dad's wife looks at him and says read your papers when you get home and that was the end of it, they left. My son gets in the car and starts telling me that his step mom said I was gonna wind up in major court because I was not following the judges orders over Halloween. I told him they should not be saying anything thing like that to him. They are always saying stuff to him to say to me. He tells me this morning that they make him say stuff to me. They tell him you tell her I said and said they are always talking bad about me in front of him and it makes him mad. What do you do about stuff like this? I don't argue with them, I try to be really nice and civil. In the beginning, I would argue with My X about stuff but I realized its not worth it. So now I keep my mouth shut don't say a word and try to be nice about the whole situation. Because she told my son it was not my weekend, he got really angry with me over it. I feel like they try to pull my son and turn him against me. And I feel sad for my son, because he is having to hear all of this. His step mom told him that if he made A's on his report card they would give him $5 for every A. He made 3 A's so she gave him $15 but then turned around and told him "I don't believe you that you made 3 A's". What can you do about stuff like this? I feel like I am having to eat a lot of crap by keeping my mouth shut and not saying anything and trying to be as nice as I can be.
This past weekend has been a tough one for me. There has been some conflict over Halloween. Halloween falls on my weekend and I told my son prior to this past weekend that if his dad and step mom did not mind I would bring them by there house to trick or treat so they could see them too. My son asked his step mom and she said its not her weekend its ours, took them out and bought costumes and everything. Then when I go to pick them up yesterday, his dad, step mom and I kinda went back and forth about Halloween. They said it was there year, Halloween is a Holiday and is in the parenting plan that I need to read my papers. I said Halloween is not a Holiday, I have read my papers and its not outlined in the parenting plan. I said I was trying to be nice so you all could see them too for Halloween since it fell on my weekend. Dad's wife looks at him and says read your papers when you get home and that was the end of it, they left. My son gets in the car and starts telling me that his step mom said I was gonna wind up in major court because I was not following the judges orders over Halloween. I told him they should not be saying anything thing like that to him. They are always saying stuff to him to say to me. He tells me this morning that they make him say stuff to me. They tell him you tell her I said and said they are always talking bad about me in front of him and it makes him mad. What do you do about stuff like this? I don't argue with them, I try to be really nice and civil. In the beginning, I would argue with My X about stuff but I realized its not worth it. So now I keep my mouth shut don't say a word and try to be nice about the whole situation. Because she told my son it was not my weekend, he got really angry with me over it. I feel like they try to pull my son and turn him against me. And I feel sad for my son, because he is having to hear all of this. His step mom told him that if he made A's on his report card they would give him $5 for every A. He made 3 A's so she gave him $15 but then turned around and told him "I don't believe you that you made 3 A's". What can you do about stuff like this? I feel like I am having to eat a lot of crap by keeping my mouth shut and not saying anything and trying to be as nice as I can be.
