WHAT to do??

[Lances]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina

OK! First, there was no mention of the kids in the divorce papers, or decree. It was a no fault divorce.

The kids live in PA with their mom.

I pay child support.

There has been NO 'legal papers' stating who has Custody and there is nothing the same for any visitation.

OK. I was supposed to have been able to get the kids for a week for Christmas. And she backed out. She didn't say I could not pick them up and bring them home, she said I can VISIT. At least she was smart about not telling me 'NO', right? It was the same way this past summer, she only 'let' us have the kids over for a month.

What do I do now? Where do I go from here?
Do I have the right to pick them up and bring them to our home anyways? I mean, she just will not cooperate with me at all when it comes to taking them. She things I should just stay in PA and visit???

Please help. This hurts a lot.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina

OK! First, there was no mention of the kids in the divorce papers, or decree. It was a no fault divorce.

The kids live in PA with their mom.

My husband pays child support.

There has been NO 'legal papers' stating who has Custody and there is nothing the same for any visitation.

OK. We were supposed to have been able to get the kids for a week for Christmas. And she backed out. She didn't say we could not pick them up and bring them home, she said we can VISIT. At least she was smart about not telling us 'NO', right? It was the same way this past summer, she only 'let' us have the kids over for a month.

What do we do now? Where do we go from here?
Does my husband have the right to pick them up and bring them to our home anyways? I mean, she just will not cooperate with my husband at all when it comes to him taking them. She things we should just stay in PA and visit???

Please help. This hurts a lot.

Please read the sticky and edit your post. Thanks!

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina

OK! First, there was no mention of the kids in the divorce papers, or decree. It was a no fault divorce.

The kids live in PA with their mom.

My husband pays child support.

There has been NO 'legal papers' stating who has Custody and there is nothing the same for any visitation.

OK. We were supposed to have been able to get the kids for a week for Christmas. And she backed out. She didn't say we could not pick them up and bring them home, she said we can VISIT. At least she was smart about not telling us 'NO', right? It was the same way this past summer, she only 'let' us have the kids over for a month.

What do we do now? Where do we go from here?
Does my husband have the right to pick them up and bring them to our home anyways? I mean, she just will not cooperate with my husband at all when it comes to him taking them. She things we should just stay in PA and visit???

Please help. This hurts a lot.

First there is no WE there is him, his ex, and his children. Now I find it very hard to believe even in a no fault divorce that the children were not addressed at all. Even if all it said was resonable visitation something was addressed. So what your husband needs to do is go back to court and file for a more specific parenting plan. Was child support addressed at all? Your husband really needs to come on here himself and let us know exactly what the court order states.

 

[Silverplum]

History is always interesting.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

History is always interesting.

I just want to know if "I" is still "WE" only "WE" is trying to get us to state what "I" wants to hear...

 

[Lances]

No fault

I looked over the paper work today, of the divorce.
No mention of the kids, or child support, just a divorce.
I idiotically believed her when she told me things would stay civil between us and the kids.

She, however, sent me papers from PA, ordering child support (which I had already been paying), to make it where I had to pay more.

Anyways. During the support conference I asked about visitation and was told that since it was just a 'conference' and not actually court, She could not go into that.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I looked over the paper work today, of the divorce.
No mention of the kids, or child support, just a divorce.
I idiotically believed her when she told me things would stay civil between us and the kids.

She, however, sent me papers from PA, ordering child support (which I had already been paying), to make it where I had to pay more.

Anyways. During the support conference I asked about visitation and was told that since it was just a 'conference' and not actually court, She could not go into that.

Im still doubtful that it wasnt addressed at all. That being stated your option is to file for visitation. So go do that umm as soon as possible would be good. Because if you have no court order you can't complain that mom doesn't let you see the children because she doesn't have to. That is your fault. You should have made sure that it was addressed. If you dont file then it is your fault if you don't see your children.

 

[Lances]

Ok, then on the other had, can she STOP me from doing so? and will her refusing help me is anyway?

 

[my life is mine]

was the divorce done in PA? if so there could be no papers on custody or visitation, my 2 oldest children father and I divorced and there is no mention of either child in our divorce paperwork

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Ok, then on the other had, can she STOP me from doing so? and will her refusing help me is anyway?

Can she stop you from doing what? Seeing the kids? Yep she sure can. Can she stop you from filing? Nope she sure cant. Will her refusing help you.....hard to say. Is it going to look good if she has no reason for doing so maybe not.

 

[Lances]

YES!!! My Life,

the divorce was done in PA! Can YOU give me any advice?

Anything will help!!!

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

YES!!! My Life,

the divorce was done in PA! Can YOU give me any advice?

Anything will help!!!

You got advice. Correct advice. YOU NEED TO GO FILE FOR VISITATION UNTIL YOU DO YOUR EX HAS THE RIGHT TO DENY YOU VISITING OR SEEING THE KIDS PERIOD! What more than that do you need to know? What do you not understand? Why are you still asking questions and not filling out the paperwork?

 

[Lances]

I was talking to 'My Life'. Thank you for whatever you said.
YOU are not in PA. the Laws there are different.

Please don't bother with your attitude It's not really appropriate.

If you knew anything really, you would have known, or maybe suggested I go for partial custody rather than visitation. Thanks tho!!
Have a wonderful life!!!

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Considering the fact that there are at least 3 states in between Mom and Dad, I don't think Dad'll have much luck with "partial custody" there Lanceswife.

But I'll play along. How old are the kids?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Suggest "googling" long-distance plans that address parenting time, transportation, and holidays.