What to do...

[Raisingmaddy]

What is the name of your state Washinton

My ex husband was supposed to pick up kiddos lastnight at 7 pm. I got a text message Thursday night that he had to work late and would either be late picking them up, or would pick them up early Saturday morning. This part is fine, he does it ALL the time.

The problem is I have been calling and sending text messages since lastnight what time he will be picking up kiddos, and if not lastnight, what time today he will pick them up. They have all gone unanswered.

I have tried contacting him several times this morning also. The problem is, I have plans to go out of town to day to visit family a few hours away. I just left him a message letting him know this and if he isn't here by the time I have to leave then I will have to take them with me.

If I have to take them, can he file contempt of court charges against me? We have been waiting since lastnight for him to show up or AT LEAST call and he is refusing to do so, I'm afraid he will show up some time after I have to leave and call the sheriff and file contempt against me.

Btw, I have nobody here that I can leave them with "just in case he shows up" and I won't be home until tomorrow.

What do you think?

 

[CourtClerk]

Does your cell phone bill itemize the date and time of when your texts are sent? If so, keep hold of that bill.

Also, be sure to call and leave a verbal message, then take them with you.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

They do..

I have yet another problem...He just finally text me back and told me he will not be here until after i HAVE to leave.

The problem is that its not just a social call, my grandfather has cancer and is very sick and I need to get there as soon as I can.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

I decided to just wait for him and leave after he gets here. He sent me a text message telling me that the visitation and custody is about to change and that he is gonna get the kids.

He doesn't even show up for his scheduled visitation, could he have a leg to stand on??

 

[Banned_Princess]

I decided to just wait for him and leave after he gets here. He sent me a text message telling me that the visitation and custody is about to change and that he is gonna get the kids.

He doesn't even show up for his scheduled visitation, could he have a leg to stand on??

Does your court order specify the time of pickup?


I don't think he will get the kids because he messed around since when he was supposed to get them last night, and you had a family emergency. I dont even think you will get yelled at. you say you can show the volumes of calls/ texts that got no response... (even save the whole incident or print it)



I would go if it were me. I wouldnt let him pull any of that garbage while I NEEDED to be somewhere.

 

[LdiJ]

I decided to just wait for him and leave after he gets here. He sent me a text message telling me that the visitation and custody is about to change and that he is gonna get the kids.

He doesn't even show up for his scheduled visitation, could he have a leg to stand on??

No, he doesn't have a leg to stand on. He is just trying to scare you into doing things his way.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Yep, he was supposed to be her lastnight (Friday) at 7:00 p.m. He does this almost EVERY single weekend he is to have them and I NEVER know for sure when he is gonna plan on picking them up.

He told me this morning that if I wasn't here whenever he showed up he would call the sheriff and file contempt of court documents.

Then after that he told me he has an attorney and that custody is gonna be changed.


ETA: I literally have to accomodate him every other weekend, it's absolutely ridiculous.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Yep, he was supposed to be her lastnight (Friday) at 7:00 p.m. He does this almost EVERY single weekend he is to have them and I NEVER know for sure when he is gonna plan on picking them up.

He told me this morning that if I wasn't here whenever he showed up he would call the sheriff and file contempt of court documents.

Then after that he told me he has an attorney and that custody is gonna be changed.


ETA: I literally have to accomodate him every other weekend, it's absolutely ridiculous.

OK well he can huff and puff all he wants. Tell him to go ahead and blow smoke, he will get in more trouble then you will.


Believe that.

 

[tornado88]

What ever became of the PI that was watching you? Has he actually filed anything for a change of custody or is he just trying to scare you into his way of thinking? The GF stop her text messages? Hang in there, you'll make it through all this.

 

[MichaCA]

If dad does wind up taking you to court, put on your "to request" list a request that if dad has now shown up within one half hour (or whatever)of the transfer time, then his visitation for that period is void. If dad is having serious issues with that time, he can bring it up with you or the judge as to a better time, but I'd still make sure a clause gets put in your court order!

 

[Isis1]

i hope this post finds that you have long ago left. dad's is blowing smoke out of his rear end. even IF the judge held you in contempt this one time, dad still wouldn't get custody out of it.

 

[shesaidwhat]

I agree with the above.

Stop letting Dad bully you. If you continue allowing it, it's never going to stop.