what will happen if my daughter refuses to obey custody aggreement?

[rachaelnreese17]

We live in MI and my daughter is having problem at her fathers house and no longer can handle being over there . What will happen if she just refuses to go ?

 

[Banned_Princess]

We live in MI and my daughter is having problem at her fathers house and no longer can handle being over there . What will happen if she just refuses to go ?

well then your ex can slam you with a court date and it may verry well be, depending on how much you help her not go, to change custody to him.

 

[dannyt]

she must go

We live in MI and my daughter is having problem at her fathers house and no longer can handle being over there . What will happen if she just refuses to go ?

you need to make your daughter understand there are times when there are things she doesnt want to do( such as go to school) but she doesnt have a choice in.this is one of them. a court order is just that an order not a suggestion, and if she doesnt go, there will be consequences. she could end up seeing a lot more of dad and a lot less of you.when shes 18 she can make that decision, untill then she doesnt have a choice.

 

[xylene]

We live in MI and my daughter is having problem at her fathers house and no longer can handle being over there .

How old is your daughter?

What exactly do you mean by "problems"?

 

[ecmst12]

Frankly that depends on what dad wants to do about it. I stopped going for visitation when I was 16. My dad chose not to fight it. If he had, who knows what would have happened - it would have been a painful court battle for everyone involved. You know your ex better than anyone here. How old is the child?

 

[musicman654321]

We live in MI and my daughter is having problem at her fathers house and no longer can handle being over there . What will happen if she just refuses to go ?

Hi,

She cannot refuse.

 

[AnotherTenant]

P.S.

The custody agreement does not order your daughter to do a thing; it orders you to perform in a specific way. If you do not make your daughter visit her father as ordered, then you are in violation of the agreement and may be found in contempt.

You are the adult in this situation, not your daughter.

 

[stealth2]

Actually, ecmst provided the correct answer - it all depends on Dad's reaction. If he insists on exercising his visitation, then it is incumbent on you to facilitate it. If she refuses, *you* are the one who will pay the price - via fines or up to a change in custody. If he shrugs and doesn't care? Then you won't likely be dinged for it. But, if and when he changes his mind? You're back to square one of being required to facilitate it.

Quite honestly, you do your daughter (and yourself) a disservice allowing her to think that she has this sort of power. You would likely not allow her to decide she no longer wanted to go to school, or didn't want to see a doctor or dentist, etc. Seeing her Dad is no different.

Now, I will say that my youngest hasn't seen Dad for just about a year, hasn't been to see him for longer than that. HOWEVER, that is by his choice. If he told her (he won't communicate with me) that he plans to have her on his weekend - I would make sure she was there. And she's 17. Bigger and stronger than I. Difference is - I never allowed her to think she wields that sort of power in our home. *I* do. She knows that there are some areas of life where, if I say "jump"? She'd better be responding with a jump or "how high?" Nor would I be painting it as "I'll get in trouble if you don't", to be honest.

Proceed at your own peril.