What is the name of your state? California
We have a custody order with an attached parenting plan. He has not followed it at all, just does things on a whim, rude, late, never plans in advance, etc....(I can prove everything with messages, texts, my own notes, emails, and now even a phone conversation that he approved to be recorded for court if we ever go) it has been over 4 years of this mess and my daughter who’s almost 6 hysterically refuses to see him now. I completely understand why. He’s a stranger to her. Yesterday I input all the hours and notes about his 2017 visitation and he saw her a total 23days not counting the time she was sleeping during those days. He is rude and crude and comes off that way in court (to my advantage.) I have said and put on the record that I’m stopping all visitations until he takes co-parenting classes and his teacher/therapist personally approves that he is be allowed to see her in ADDITION one of the following three options
1. He comes to my house daily until she’s ok with him
2. We go to group therapy with her and do what therapist (court approved, therapy sessions open to court, he pays for everything)
3. We go to court and do what the judge orders. If he gets another chance and fails (which he will!!) At which point does the Judge say, that’s enough. It’s torture for this child and it’s not in her best interest is my question exactly. ???
P.s. he’s supposed to have 1st 3rd and 5th weekend, alternating holidays and half of all vacation breaks ( but no longer than a week at a time). Since I know who I’m dealing with, and I’m 99% sure that although he will fight in court to hurt me, he will never change and do what’s right for her. How much longer will the judge make me deal with him?? And how many more times of her crying, hysteria and worries will it take??? What is the law on that in California? Thank you for ANY ADVICE AND WISHING EVERYONE A GREAT WEEKEND!
We have a custody order with an attached parenting plan. He has not followed it at all, just does things on a whim, rude, late, never plans in advance, etc....(I can prove everything with messages, texts, my own notes, emails, and now even a phone conversation that he approved to be recorded for court if we ever go) it has been over 4 years of this mess and my daughter who’s almost 6 hysterically refuses to see him now. I completely understand why. He’s a stranger to her. Yesterday I input all the hours and notes about his 2017 visitation and he saw her a total 23days not counting the time she was sleeping during those days. He is rude and crude and comes off that way in court (to my advantage.) I have said and put on the record that I’m stopping all visitations until he takes co-parenting classes and his teacher/therapist personally approves that he is be allowed to see her in ADDITION one of the following three options
1. He comes to my house daily until she’s ok with him
2. We go to group therapy with her and do what therapist (court approved, therapy sessions open to court, he pays for everything)
3. We go to court and do what the judge orders. If he gets another chance and fails (which he will!!) At which point does the Judge say, that’s enough. It’s torture for this child and it’s not in her best interest is my question exactly. ???
P.s. he’s supposed to have 1st 3rd and 5th weekend, alternating holidays and half of all vacation breaks ( but no longer than a week at a time). Since I know who I’m dealing with, and I’m 99% sure that although he will fight in court to hurt me, he will never change and do what’s right for her. How much longer will the judge make me deal with him?? And how many more times of her crying, hysteria and worries will it take??? What is the law on that in California? Thank you for ANY ADVICE AND WISHING EVERYONE A GREAT WEEKEND!