What is the name of your state? AZ
I do not want to appear to be trival but my ex and I have become completly at odds over the past two months. We had been civil with each other until he told me he got another woman pregnant. I have not been nasty with him in any way but he has been extremely rude (maybe it's the pressure that's getting to him of having another baby on the way). Anyway on Sunday he came to pick our son up. The agreement was, he was to pick him up at 9:00 AM and drop him off at 6 PM (this is the first time he has taken him away from home by his choice). He showed up at 8:30 AM. I had already packed my child's bag and all I had to do was get him dressed. I went to the door and kindly explained to him that the agreement was at 9 and he would be ready at that time. I did not let him in (only because he has been rude and I am no longer going to be disrespected). I will however remain civil and cordial. My son's father returned to the door at 9 and I walked them to the car.
The carseat my son's father had was extremely dirty and was the carseat his 7 year old daughter used when she was an infant. I was shocked that he wouldn't spring for a new seat, especially since he has been very inconsistent with support, I would think he had been saving money because he wasn't giving it to his son. I asked him for the make and model of the seat because it looked like it was from 1972. He became very angry. Not to mention I let him use my stroller.
I called at 1PM to see how everything was going and he was extremely rude. This was the first time he had our son by himself and I was only checking to see if baby & dad were making out ok. But he hated that I called ONE time. I didn't repsond back to his nastiness I simply stated I hope you have a good day and hung up. Even at daycare they allow you to call. GEEEZZZZ!
When he dropped him off he came at 5:30. Like I said before not to be picky however my daughter and I had just returned from a movie and thank goodness we didn't stop at the store or anything. The way this man has been acting lately I know he would pitch a fit if we weren't at home when he got there.
My question is does 9 mean 9 and does 6 mean 6? Not that I didn't love seeing my baby a little early because I missed him but I want to establish the proper expectations NOW! In addition I am not on my son's father's schedule. I think he has the idea that he can come and go when he likes and I will be at home.
Do I have the right to know the make and model of the carseat especially since it didn't look stable and was 7 years old?
I do not want to appear to be trival but my ex and I have become completly at odds over the past two months. We had been civil with each other until he told me he got another woman pregnant. I have not been nasty with him in any way but he has been extremely rude (maybe it's the pressure that's getting to him of having another baby on the way). Anyway on Sunday he came to pick our son up. The agreement was, he was to pick him up at 9:00 AM and drop him off at 6 PM (this is the first time he has taken him away from home by his choice). He showed up at 8:30 AM. I had already packed my child's bag and all I had to do was get him dressed. I went to the door and kindly explained to him that the agreement was at 9 and he would be ready at that time. I did not let him in (only because he has been rude and I am no longer going to be disrespected). I will however remain civil and cordial. My son's father returned to the door at 9 and I walked them to the car.
The carseat my son's father had was extremely dirty and was the carseat his 7 year old daughter used when she was an infant. I was shocked that he wouldn't spring for a new seat, especially since he has been very inconsistent with support, I would think he had been saving money because he wasn't giving it to his son. I asked him for the make and model of the seat because it looked like it was from 1972. He became very angry. Not to mention I let him use my stroller.
I called at 1PM to see how everything was going and he was extremely rude. This was the first time he had our son by himself and I was only checking to see if baby & dad were making out ok. But he hated that I called ONE time. I didn't repsond back to his nastiness I simply stated I hope you have a good day and hung up. Even at daycare they allow you to call. GEEEZZZZ!
When he dropped him off he came at 5:30. Like I said before not to be picky however my daughter and I had just returned from a movie and thank goodness we didn't stop at the store or anything. The way this man has been acting lately I know he would pitch a fit if we weren't at home when he got there.
My question is does 9 mean 9 and does 6 mean 6? Not that I didn't love seeing my baby a little early because I missed him but I want to establish the proper expectations NOW! In addition I am not on my son's father's schedule. I think he has the idea that he can come and go when he likes and I will be at home.
Do I have the right to know the make and model of the carseat especially since it didn't look stable and was 7 years old?
I would not feel comfortable inviting her in our house because of her past behavior and rude comments, so I don't think you should feel pressure to do that at all. As long as you handle yourself calmly and put your son first you will be doing the right thing. All in all just give it time...