When sending Certified Mail.

[tigger22472]

I was wondering if anyone knows if there is a way to send something, say like a certified letter, and making sure ONLY that person gets it? My new brain fart is to either have CSE send me my ex's summons and I send it knowing ONLY he signs for it knowing he got or it that they can do it. The last certified letter I sent to his mothers house she signed for it. I know he got it but can't prove it and would have to with a summons.

 

[Dogmatic_1]

I'll tell you what I did..... LOL, but I have training In Privet Investigation. I took the court order to appear, I tracked down my ex........ got a cop to go and serve it to him. LMAO If you can afford that travling expensises....... Do some PI work honey. If you want it done right, and you want it done this year....... do it yourself. LMAO

 

[tigger22472]

Oh I agree with you on that one. Problem is it's not that easy without looking in windows...lol I live 2 hours away and last I heard he doesn't have a car. I used to get information through his sister but the family finally caught on that she tells me everything she knows. She says I did her a favor now no-one talks to her. He knows it's not beyond me to do it though I'm sure. Right before Christmas I heard there was a warrent for his arrest. I just happened to be down in his town and searched for him. I happened to run into a few of his friends and let it be known I as well as the police were looking for him. I never did find out what that warrent was for or if he was ever caught for it but you bet your butts I gave the police EVERY ADDRESS I knew of. I'm sure his friends have seen him and told him I was out looking for him that night.

 

[haiku]

I take it he has no job, either? in my experience, the best place to send the sheriff!

 

[haiku]

hey I just thought of something, I know UPS or Fed express alawys had a delivery option where ONLY the addressed person could sign for the package or they will not deliver....

 

[tigger22472]

He knows I'd do that too..lol I'm sure he's working but it's under the table. I know someone that can throw his SS# in a computer...funny CSE says that they can't... but nothing has come up on it. Right after we separated he kept telling me he wasn't living with his mother which I knew better but I knew where he worked. I figured if he didn't want me to know his address I'd have things sent there. I had a PO sent there on him and they were even going to pick him up there for the violation of it but he found out and went home and called them. Of course he gave me crap about how I was jeopardizing his job.... blah blah blah. I told him if he didn't want that then I suggested he told me where he was living. I also had the divorce papers served to him at work. He's not the brightest crayon in the box but I think after 10 years together he knows me pretty well... I've NEVER been shy about anything.

 

[tigger22472]

Thanks.. you know I think that's right I could send it FEDEX. I'm sure he knows where the place is to pick it up is at. Just wonder if they deal in the same way.

 

[Grace_Adler]

I have a question because thanks to you I've decided that we should send all my husband's kids their stuff throught certified mail. Just in case we need to refer back to it in the future. But when you send it you don't get to see who signed for it? I thought they sent the reciept back to you. Can you go to the post office and find out? I know some people use the post office to find out stuff. So UPS has an option for only the people who it's going to to sign? Because I know I've signed for stuff before. I'm not sure I'm clear on how the certified mail thing works.

 

[ellencee]

UPS, Fed EX, and the US Postal Service have this option to require only the address to receive (sign). Each also has the online service of 'seeing' the signature and the pick up time, etc.
Well, the Post Office may not let you 'see' the actual signature, but it does offer the online option of 'who' signed and when. Postal Service costs $.40 per delivery for this option.

 

[sbaldwin]

When sending certified mail, you can ask for a return receipt so that you know who signed for it. As far as only having a certain person sign for it, I'm not sure. I bet they have that option if you ask!

 

[tigger22472]

Yes Grace you ask for a return receipt and you will see who signed for it. That's how I know my ex's mother signed for his letter. I think I'm going to stop at the post office on Monday and see if they have the option of it ONLY being that person. I would think that they do because when I've gotten certified mail and had to pick it up they have made me show ID. Certified letters(which people on here taught me to do) is great for documentation. Even if a certain person doesn't sign for it, it helps. In my case if he says he doesn't get it I can dog him on the fact that his mother isn't reliable to give him mail.

 

[Grace_Adler]

LOL..Thanks for the response. Another question..how do you look it up online? And what if you send them something this way and if something comes up in court about it and your ex says..that's not what was in the certified mail and your like yes it was..how does that effect a judge? You know what I mean? How are they to know what was really in the mail? Just curious.

 

[tigger22472]

Well Grace not sure there is a way to 100% proof that is what you put in the envelope but say in a letter it's dated one day and then you have a receipt from sending it around then plus a return receipt with a signature stating they got it. Always keep copies of EVERYTHING. You can seach the post office online and it can tell you more about certified mail but if I'm not mistaken it was like in doctor language or either very vauge... I just remember face to face info was a lot more helpful. You will look better in front of a judge with your documentation and having answers to their questions at their fingertips rather then no proof at all.

 

[sbaldwin]

That's a great question to which I have no answer! LOL Actually we would never have that problem since my husband's ex wont accept ANYTHING from certified mail, and we always get it back. Needless to say, we have a stack of letters sent certified and all we would have to do is let the judge open them up to see what's inside! I'm anxious to read what people have to say on this!

 

[tigger22472]

keep sending the mail anyways. The fact that she doesn't take it doesn't look good for her either. I half expected my ex to not sign for his but his mother did and I know he got it. Plus, he's dumb but not dumb enough NOT to take the mail. He thinks that he can use it against me because I'm like the "wicked witch of west" and such a bad mother that I need to "watch my step." Every time he pulls that I keep telling him I'm more then willing to make copies of our divorce decree because he obviously lost his because he's forgotten who he's dealing with. After our split I laid in my front room with my couch blocking my door with a butcher knife scared to death and crying but he'll never know that because I don't back down to him and don't take his crap. He just needs a little reminder now and then. That's why I used to sign things.... You know, the b**** that smartened up and divorced your sorry a**"