What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
I am asking based on a thread I just read here about slapping,etc.
My daughter often gets pushed around by her dad...the more recent (milder) report I heard was that he once again pinned her against a piece of furniture that had knobs pushing into her. She tells dad it hurts, he still doesn't let her up.
In the past a CPS case was opened, and then closed...the whole thing another story but very weirdly handled and the dads' version of what happened it what the caseworker decided to go with, that its a case of the child acting out with both parents. That is so not the case and not true, never was true. And the reality that that instance she was really hurt by her dad, while in his care did not make a dent of interest for the caseworker.
In the past, over the years, there have been numerous problems of dad holding her down, from the age of say 6 until now (10). There are times she has called here and gotten been very freaked out and afraid of her dad. I never called the police these times...(bad on me). But I would call CPS, discuss some of the 'discipline', and they did take notes.
I did teach her to call 911 if she got really scared, but she informed me recently her dad won't let her near a phone when he acts out.
This is all hearsay from a child. I KNOW she is not yanking my chain. He has sat on her while she is naked, she showed me how...in a hurtful way (knees across the stomach) to force dress her for school.
He has rolled her up several times in a blanket so she can't move (he has a hard time controlling her) and a couple of times she says she is having a hard time breath, he is pressing down on her face.
He has locked her in a closed closet on a hot day for hours at a time. At that time her, then, therapist did nothing but "talked to dad".
The sordid thing is when she screams or tells him he is hurting her or she can't breath, each and every time he says "that doesn't hurt" or says she is lying (alas his story to the caseworker got believed, he made it all about HER).
The problems have lessened...esp after the cps investigation...when he gets on the hot seat he always calms down a few months.
Again, last week I heard he was holding her forcefully against a piece of furniture despite her saying that it was hurting, he did not let up.
Often by the time I see her its been days since whatever, however as of yet I have only seen one small bruise. But I don't like the behavior and she is melting down sometimes and its clear to me she feels she has no control at her dads and is very unhappy in her life.
Since CPS closes a blind eye, when I hear of a report, do I take her to the police station and file a report? Even if there are no bruises? Would they simply talk to her?
Also, the next time we go to court, can I request that dad must refrain from not allowing her to call 911 if she is feeling threatened?
Thanks for your feedback.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I am asking based on a thread I just read here about slapping,etc.
My daughter often gets pushed around by her dad...the more recent (milder) report I heard was that he once again pinned her against a piece of furniture that had knobs pushing into her. She tells dad it hurts, he still doesn't let her up.
In the past a CPS case was opened, and then closed...the whole thing another story but very weirdly handled and the dads' version of what happened it what the caseworker decided to go with, that its a case of the child acting out with both parents. That is so not the case and not true, never was true. And the reality that that instance she was really hurt by her dad, while in his care did not make a dent of interest for the caseworker.
In the past, over the years, there have been numerous problems of dad holding her down, from the age of say 6 until now (10). There are times she has called here and gotten been very freaked out and afraid of her dad. I never called the police these times...(bad on me). But I would call CPS, discuss some of the 'discipline', and they did take notes.
I did teach her to call 911 if she got really scared, but she informed me recently her dad won't let her near a phone when he acts out.
This is all hearsay from a child. I KNOW she is not yanking my chain. He has sat on her while she is naked, she showed me how...in a hurtful way (knees across the stomach) to force dress her for school.
He has rolled her up several times in a blanket so she can't move (he has a hard time controlling her) and a couple of times she says she is having a hard time breath, he is pressing down on her face.
He has locked her in a closed closet on a hot day for hours at a time. At that time her, then, therapist did nothing but "talked to dad".
The sordid thing is when she screams or tells him he is hurting her or she can't breath, each and every time he says "that doesn't hurt" or says she is lying (alas his story to the caseworker got believed, he made it all about HER).
The problems have lessened...esp after the cps investigation...when he gets on the hot seat he always calms down a few months.
Again, last week I heard he was holding her forcefully against a piece of furniture despite her saying that it was hurting, he did not let up.
Often by the time I see her its been days since whatever, however as of yet I have only seen one small bruise. But I don't like the behavior and she is melting down sometimes and its clear to me she feels she has no control at her dads and is very unhappy in her life.
Since CPS closes a blind eye, when I hear of a report, do I take her to the police station and file a report? Even if there are no bruises? Would they simply talk to her?
Also, the next time we go to court, can I request that dad must refrain from not allowing her to call 911 if she is feeling threatened?
Thanks for your feedback.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
