Why was my thread locked? I await Ohiogal's answer.

[profmum]

There is no crystal ball here, Mum very well may find a place to live, with a friend, a roomate etc. So you don't know for a fact that she will be homeless. Second the outcome could be one of many things:
A. you could get primary custody with Mum getting visitation and/or Mum being allowed to provide care when you are flying.
B. Mum could be allowed to relocated to Iowa and you get a long distance plan based on your job as a pilot and you could very well be asked to foot the bill for transportation given the industry you are in.
c. You and Mum could get 50-50 with Mum being allowed to provide care when you are flying
d. same as #c with you being able to provide care anyway you want when you are flying.
or any thing else!
The circumstances of your case are somewhat unusual and there is an established history of Mum being the primary caretaker when you are flying.Once again, you (or your attny) are being very ****y in what you think will happen and there is no indication that will be the outcome for certain. You could stand to lose a lot more time with the kids.

So I would try and figure out something that works for you and Mum.. that is always the best option regardless of what you feel about Mum.. she is Mum and not homeless yet and that is the only basis you seem to have to ask for primary custody.. so be careful and again, drop the arrogance!

 

[gr8rn]

So glad you came back, I know a lot more than you think I do. All your chest thumping and whining about what you did for her, fly her here and there, HA!!!

They are called "buddy passes" and they are DIRT CHEAP!!! Some employees get them for free...like PILOTS. So your pontificating about how much you did for her is for naught. Perhaps the reason you are so slyly trying to trick her into being homeless is that you are jealous that she moved on quickly and often AWAY from you and I think based on the way you behave on a public forum trashing THE MOTHER Of YOUR CHILDREN whom you chose, I believe I have learned a lot about YOU and YOUR MOTIVES!!

I will now go back to my coloring, a picture of an airline pilot crying because he can't get custody because his ex has DONE NOTHING WRONG and she has been the primary caregiver for the children, yes the one YOU chose!!!

 

[CJane]

I'd just like to point out that being able to hire a nanny does not trump MOM.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I wanted to also point out that while I feel you have every right to kick out mom and I don't think you should be responsible for supporting her, OG had a very good point. That does not mean if she becomes "homeless" you will have a slam dunk. Homeless doesn't neccesarily mean living on the streets in a box.

 

[Jetpilot]

So glad you came back, I know a lot more than you think I do. All your chest thumping and whining about what you did for her, fly her here and there, HA!!!

They are called "buddy passes" and they are DIRT CHEAP!!! Some employees get them for free...like PILOTS. So your pontificating about how much you did for her is for naught. Perhaps the reason you are so slyly trying to trick her into being homeless is that you are jealous that she moved on quickly and often AWAY from you and I think based on the way you behave on a public forum trashing THE MOTHER Of YOUR CHILDREN whom you chose, I believe I have learned a lot about YOU and YOUR MOTIVES!!

I will now go back to my coloring, a picture of an airline pilot crying because he can't get custody because his ex has DONE NOTHING WRONG and she has been the primary caregiver for the children, yes the one YOU chose!!!

Come back from your smoke break? That is the most immature response yet! You put mine to shame!

You need help and buddy passes are space available not confirmed seats. It would not guarantee long distance visitation if she were to take the kids to Iowa. I don't use buddy passes. Buddy passes are for just that "buddies" and not me. Once again, please stick to your profession because you know nothing about mine. What motive do I have? I have helped her countless times!


Perhaps now it will come back and bite me because I allowed it to happen for so long. Now I will probably lose them because I cared about her well being and wanted her to succeed and get independence. I could have just abandoned her and the kids like some people do but I love my kids and would die for my kids.

She moved on so quickly? She hasn't moved on she's on my couch! After two failed relationships! Moving here and there with my kids! That's ok?

I respect her caregiving but it does not mean I have to adopt her!

She has done nothing wrong? You ma'am are delusional! You get dumped by a pilot or something? Please you have obviously not read everything that was said and your trashing me is juvenile.

HBG77, Please stop putting words in m mouth! I did not say I had a slam dunk! My attorney did so give it a rest.

Thanks profmum.

 

[Jetpilot]

I wanted to also point out that while I feel you have every right to kick out mom and I don't think you should be responsible for supporting her, OG had a very good point. That does not mean if she becomes "homeless" you will have a slam dunk. Homeless doesn't neccesarily mean living on the streets in a box.

That is fine. I hope she finds someone to live with because I don't want her living with me!! That is the whole point! I don't mind her caring for the kids, hell I would let them live with her if she had a job and a place to live. The fact that she does not is NOT MY FAULT! But you agree with that.

 

[Proserpina]

HBG77, Please stop putting words in m mouth! I did not say I had a slam dunk! My attorney did so give it a rest.

Thanks profmum.

So tell us again why you're here?

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

That is the most immature response yet! You put mine to shame!

You need help and buddy passes are space available not confirmed seats. It would not guarantee long distance visitation if she were to take the kids to Iowa. I don't use buddy passes. Please stick to your profession because you know nothing about mine. What motive do I have? I have helped her countless times!

Perhaps now it will come back and bite me because I allowed it to happen for so long. Now I will probably lose them because I cared about her well being and wanted her to succeed and get independence. I could have just abandoned her and the kids like some people do but I love my kids and would die for my kids.

She moved on so quickly? She hasn't moved on she's on my couch! After two failed relationships! Moving here and there with my kids! That's ok?

I respect her caregiving but it does not mean I have to adopt her!

She has done nothing wrong? You ma'am are delusional! You get dumped by a pilot or something?

HBG77, Please stop putting words in m mouth! I did not say I had a slam dunk! My attorney did so give it a rest.Thanks profmum.

Well sheesh boy I defended your butt so calm down now. I was not stating that you had said it was a slam dunk. I was not in anyway trying to be rude or a smart butt to you. Just agreeing that it may or may not go towards you getting custody but it was no neccesarily what would seal the deal so to speak. I was actually being nice unlike you. A thank you instead of giving me attitude would be nice.

 

[Jetpilot]

Well sheesh boy I defended your butt so calm down now. I was not stating that you had said it was a slam dunk. I was not in anyway trying to be rude or a smart butt to you. Just agreeing that it may or may not go towards you getting custody but it was no neccesarily what would seal the deal so to speak. I was actually being nice unlike you. A thank you instead of giving me attitude would be nice.

My apologies and thank you. I just misinterpreted the text.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

My apologies and thank you. I just misinterpreted the text.

Thats better and your welcome

 

[Jetpilot]

So tell us again why you're here?

Well not to get advice from you that's for sure.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Well not to get advice from you that's for sure.

Hey now, be nice to dog she is actually a sweetie. I think she is honestly confused since you posted in the custody forumn but have since stated you dont want custody.... Can you see the confusion for us? I think what you are stating is you would love for mom to be able to financially take care of the children and provide a home, but since you don't think without your help that she will be able to, that you wanted to see what your option for custody would be.... Is that correct?

 

[Jetpilot]

Hey now, be nice to dog she is actually a sweetie. I think she is honestly confused since you posted in the custody forumn but have since stated you dont want custody.... Can you see the confusion for us? I think what you are stating is you would love for mom to be able to financially take care of the children and provide a home, but since you don't think without your help that she will be able to, that you wanted to see what your option for custody would be.... Is that correct?

OMG!! You see the light!!! YES YES YES! Sorry for the confusion. I am not out to hurt my ex but enough is enough.

The past insult directed at my ex was out of years frustration and I have apologized since then. But some can't give that a rest and think I am the monster uh hummm gr8rn uh hum..grrrrr sorry clearing throat.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

OMG!! You see the light!!! YES YES YES! Sorry for the confusion. I am not out to hurt my ex but enough is enough.

The past insult directed at my ex was out of years frustration and I have apologized since then. But some can't give that a rest and think I am the monster uh hummm gr8rn uh hum..grrrrr sorry clearing throat.

Boy I saw the light quite a few posts ago and that was with my brain fried from finals. Its just cuz I am so darn quick. You just added to the confusion when you said you didnt want custody and didnt clarify much past that. That being said the advice is the same. Good luck and I hope everything works out the best for your child/ren.

 

[Jetpilot]

Boy I saw the light quite a few posts ago and that was with my brain fried from finals. Its just cuz I am so darn quick. You just added to the confusion when you said you didnt want custody and didnt clarify much past that. That being said the advice is the same. Good luck and I hope everything works out the best for your child/ren.

Thank you and I guess this is an issue that has to be resolved in court. This is beyond verbal agreements correct?