Will this look bad?

[Fairy4]

What is the name of your state? VA

My ex and I go back to court for an appeal (that he filed) in mid-Nov. I was granted full physical custody and child support in the inital hearing in Sept. of this year. He received every Wed. visitation (over-night) and every other weekend. He appealed because he wants physical custody.

Anyway, to make a long story short; I lost my job today. It was a mutual thing. They said I wasn't learning a new system quick enough, and in my defense I had to teach myself the computer system because no one else in the office knew it, etc.

My question is: Will me not having a job have any bearing when we go for the appeal? I will let him know tomorrow when he comes to pay child support that he can deduct the $98 a week he was paying for daycare expenses. I know that the ammount of child support will be re-figured when we go to court because of my unemployment, and it should be. I just wonder if me going from a full time employee to a SAHM will look bad.

 

[Zephyr]

are you actively seeking employment? I wouldn't pull the kid from daycare if you are, then you have to set it all up again IF they haven't already filled your slot.

 

[stealth2]

File for unemployment and start looking for another job. I doubt this will seriously impact the proceedings.

 

[Fairy4]

are you actively seeking employment? I wouldn't pull the kid from daycare if you are, then you have to set it all up again IF they haven't already filled your slot.

Since I just lost my job this morning; I haven't even thought about what I will do, just yet. We would have extra income to "play with" if I did go out and work; but my current husband and myself also see the benefits of a SAHM...especially with 4 children under the age of 12.

I haven't had the chance to talk with the babysitter yet. All of the children are at school now, and I thought I would pick them up from the babysitter this evening and explain the situation to her. I already paid her for this week and next week anyway. It's just not right to have my ex pay for his share of the daycare expenses when I'm not working.

 

[stealth2]

Well, if you decide not to work, you should expect that the court will impute you with an income. So the CS calc may not really change anyway.

 

[Fairy4]

File for unemployment and start looking for another job. I doubt this will seriously impact the proceedings.

I only worked with this company for 7 months, can I still qualify for unemployment? Also, I didn't really know how to enable and access every area of the new computer program...isn't that my fault? Granted I was never sent to a training seminar, nor did anyone else there know the system because it was brand new. All I had to go on was a small user's guide, and telephone support system (which I knew more than they did!). I was the only one in the office who was learning the new system. In fact the manager was booting up the old system as I was leaving so they could work on that (evidently she doesn't plan on learning the new system).

Thanks for the advice!

 

[Zephyr]

I only worked with this company for 7 months, can I still qualify for unemployment? Also, I didn't really know how to enable and access every area of the new computer program...isn't that my fault? Granted I was never sent to a training seminar, nor did anyone else there know the system because it was brand new. All I had to go on was a small user's guide, and telephone support system (which I knew more than they did!). I was the only one in the office who was learning the new system. In fact the manager was booting up the old system as I was leaving so they could work on that (evidently she doesn't plan on learning the new system).

Thanks for the advice!

In WI it depends on your earning for 4 of the last five quarters, so if you had a job prior to the one you just left you probably are eligible, I don't thing unemployment standards vary all that much- I could be wrong though, quick call to unemployments toll free line would get you the answer for sure.


http://swz.salary.com/salarywizard/layouthtmls/swzl_unemployment_VA.html

 

[DelanaH]

Just an Opinion

I know what they say about Opinions but....This is just a personal opinion but....... If you are married and your currrent husband can provide for the family without you working, I would think the idea of you being a SAHM would be benificial. You will be available for your kids every needs, like being a home room mother at school or being able to stay home when your children are sick, picking them up from school (being there when they get off the bus)etc. If you wanted to, maybe you could reach an agreement about his child support not going up. He might appreciate that.
Remember what I have just said is just personal opinion.

 

[Zephyr]

I know what they say about Opinions but....This is just a personal opinion but....... If you are married and your currrent husband can provide for the family without you working, I would think the idea of you being a SAHM would be benificial. You will be available for your kids every needs, like being a home room mother at school or being able to stay home when your children are sick, picking them up from school (being there when they get off the bus)etc. If you wanted to, maybe you could reach an agreement about his child support not going up. He might appreciate that.
Remember what I have just said is just personal opinion.

but hi child support is really not all that likely to go up, she JUST lost her job and if she decides not to go back to work dad has the arguement that she is voluntarily underemployed- which she would be.

 

[DelanaH]

Ok Fairy4 how long did you have this job and did you work prior to this job?

 

[casa]

I only worked with this company for 7 months, can I still qualify for unemployment? Also, I didn't really know how to enable and access every area of the new computer program...isn't that my fault? Granted I was never sent to a training seminar, nor did anyone else there know the system because it was brand new. All I had to go on was a small user's guide, and telephone support system (which I knew more than they did!). I was the only one in the office who was learning the new system. In fact the manager was booting up the old system as I was leaving so they could work on that (evidently she doesn't plan on learning the new system).

Thanks for the advice!

Contact EDD. sometimes it is required you were employed for a min. of 6 months~ and either way, when you are fired or laid off, you will usually qualify. Were you fired, or did you quit?

Also, since the reason for the end of employment was problems managing the technical requirement~ maybe you can check into any EDD sponsored re-training or computer education programs.

 

[Fairy4]

In WI it depends on your earning for 4 of the last five quarters, so if you had a job prior to the one you just left you probably are eligible, I don't thing unemployment standards vary all that much- I could be wrong though, quick call to unemployments toll free line would get you the answer for sure.

I was out of work for a little over a year before this job. My mom was diagnoised with cancer early in 2004, right when my employer at the time sold his business and laid everyone off. So I was the one who took care of my Mom (treatments, dr. visits, etc). I went back to work when we thought she was doing better; although it didn't last for long, as she passed away on July 31st of this year.

I know what they say about Opinions but....This is just a personal opinion but....... If you are married and your currrent husband can provide for the family without you working, I would think the idea of you being a SAHM would be benificial. You will be available for your kids every needs, like being a home room mother at school or being able to stay home when your children are sick, picking them up from school (being there when they get off the bus)etc. If you wanted to, maybe you could reach an agreement about his child support not going up. He might appreciate that.
Remember what I have just said is just personal opinion.

I agree that a SAHM is beneficial, unfortunately my ex doesn't appreciate ANYTHING that I do!! I breathe the wrong way according to him! All he's fighting for in court is a way out of paying any child support (my opinion and his actions)!

but hi child support is really not all that likely to go up, she JUST lost her job and if she decides not to go back to work dad has the arguement that she is voluntarily underemployed- which she would be.

I agree that if I'm unemployeed that his child support should go down, and it probably will. Isn't cs amount figured by taking mine and his income into account? So if I don't work then that total amount would be less, and in turn lower his support. I'm not about figuring out how to get the most child support, I want it to be fair to everyone.

Contact EDD. sometimes it is required you were employed for a min. of 6 months~ and either way, when you are fired or laid off, you will usually qualify. Were you fired, or did you quit?

Also, since the reason for the end of employment was problems managing the technical requirement~ maybe you can check into any EDD sponsored re-training or computer education programs.

I'm assuming that Virginia Employment Comission is the equivilent to EDD?

 

[casa]

I'm assuming that Virginia Employment Comission is the equivilent to EDD?

Yes, I'm assuming so. (I wasn't sure the name used in VA)

 

[stealth2]

I agree that if I'm unemployeed that his child support should go down, and it probably will. Isn't cs amount figured by taking mine and his income into account? So if I don't work then that total amount would be less, and in turn lower his support. I'm not about figuring out how to get the most child support, I want it to be fair to everyone.

While both incomes are taken into account, the resultant support amount is then split proportionally between the two of you. Also, if you decide to stay home, it is likely that the court will impute an income to you anyway, so support is unlikely to change significantly.

 

[Fairy4]

While both incomes are taken into account, the resultant support amount is then split proportionally between the two of you. Also, if you decide to stay home, it is likely that the court will impute an income to you anyway, so support is unlikely to change significantly.

Thanks for the info. I never realized that the court would give me an income anyway...even if I stayed home. I guess they would use what I was making in the most recent job I had?