would a speech delay effect the custody of child?

[Cindergretta]

What is the name of your state? Georgia

my son has a speech delay and he will be in need of speech therapy for 2x's a week at 45 minute sessions till he is 3. so about 9 months of therapy and then they will reevaluate his speech. my STBX wants physical/legal/joint custody of the kids. how will this affect the custody of the kids?

 

[SMURFEELAW]

It shouldn't as long as both parties are willing to take the child to the doctor appointments. 50/50 physical and joint legal could be done and then each party would have an even better ability to help the child through this b/c attending the appointments would give them better understanding. It doesn't even seem unreasonable unless you and the ex live a very far distance from one another

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Georgia

my son has a speech delay and he will be in need of speech therapy for 2x's a week at 45 minute sessions till he is 3. so about 9 months of therapy and then they will reevaluate his speech. my STBX wants physical/legal/joint custody of the kids. how will this affect the custody of the kids?

Your STBX will be expected to take your son to any therapy sessions that fall on "his" time. Other than that, it is unlikely to have any effect.

 

[nextwife]

MY daughter was in intensive speech therapies for severe PI environmental speech delays (she had no expressive or receptive language at 25 months old). The program sent her speech therapists to her preschool and did her therapy sessions there. If you can work out something like that, it should be every non-interuptive of the child's schedule.

 

[Cindergretta]

i guess i should have added that no we will not even be living in the same state. he is currently in Guam, but in a year and a half he will be in Virginia or San Diego.

 

[nextwife]

So, not living in the same state is then the issue, not speech therapy.

 

[Cindergretta]

i don't understand? are you asking me if not living in the same state is the issue? if my son needs consistent speech therapy and his dad does live out of state, but whenever my child travels he regresses in his speech and will not speak for weeks. is it so bad for his dad to travel to our state, where he has *free* lodging with relatives to visit his son so that our sons best interests are considered?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state? Georgia

my son has a speech delay and he will be in need of speech therapy for 2x's a week at 45 minute sessions till he is 3. so about 9 months of therapy and then they will reevaluate his speech. my STBX wants physical/legal/joint custody of the kids. how will this affect the custody of the kids?

My response:

What is "speech delay"?

Is that like when the kid moves his mouth, the words don't come out until a few seconds later? Is it like watching an English dubbed Japanese movie?

IAAL

 

[nextwife]

There are highly qualified speech therapists all over the country. Why can't he arrange therapy where he lives during his time, with the therapists keeping each other informed about progress?

 

[casa]

This is serious. What do the experts say is the cause of the speech delay? There are biological reasons- say underdeveloped plate etc. where they need only relearn how to use their tongue and voice properly. There are also psychological reasons which can be from trauma....

Either way public schools allow for specialized education to alleviate these issues. If this is not trauma based then you are fine.

What have the professionals advised you? What course of treatment and speech therapy have they recommended? This is the basis of your legal issue.

If your child has a speech issue that is common or 'normal' then you will provide treatment while in your care and father will do the same. If there are other issues involved- that is a different story.

What have you been told by the professionals who have diagnosed your son?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

What is "speech delay"?

Is that like when the kid moves his mouth, the words don't come out until a few seconds later? Is it like watching an English dubbed Japanese movie?

IAAL

My response:

I'm still waiting for an answer.

IAAL

 

[Cindergretta]

during travel or moves my son has regressed with his speech. there are psychological reasons and one is the rejection of a parent towards a child. my STBX has rejected my son and prefers the prescence of my 3 year old daughter. STBX has told me on 2 occasions that he doesn't want anything to do with my son till he can talk. Hence, I am sure that my son senses the rejection projected onto him by his father. i have a meeting with those involved in diagnosing my son this week.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You need to give the whole story, up front, not break it up into several different threads trying to maniplate us into giving you the answer you are looking for.
Most 2 yo children have very limited speach abilities when compared to a 3 yo, this is one of the reasons this time is called the terrible 2's and why when they get to 3 things get better because comminucation improves all the way areound, both speech and comprehension. If a child is not exposed to both parents, of course there is going to be some regression if one parent is not there learning to understand that the child is trying to say so the custodial parent is going to be better able to communicate with the child. Then your purpose should be to imporve communication and the relationship between the NCP and the child, not trying to interfere with the relationship. Your only intent here is to dig roe reasons to deny custody and parenting time between the 2. Now the logistics of travel for a 2 year old is another story. Quit looking for excuses to interfere with the relationship and look for ways to make it work.

 

[Cindergretta]

rmet4nzkx,

i don't appreciate your accusations. i am not trying to manipulate anyone into giving me the answer i want. i have different threads because i have many different issues. and being a first time user i thought that i was supposed post my different issues in the different threads. i don't have any problem with allowing my STBX to visit with our child. i am the sole caretaker of my kids. i know them better than anyone, including my STBX. he is the one that said it was my responsibility to take care of them 24/7. i have 2 children, my 3 year old is very advanced and my 2 year old has some obvious problems. i am very concerned about him and how all of the custody issues and being moved all around is going to affect him. he is not adapting to change very well at all. his speech delay has actually worsened since is initial diagnosis in June. Since we arrived in Georgia in October, my 2 year old has screamed if i give him a bath. only this past week has he stopped screaming in the bath..it has taken him a little over 2 months to adjust to where he takes his bath. it was suggested that my son might have AUTISM. i do want what his best for my children. on the other hand my STBX has admitted that custody for him is all about what *he* wants and what *he* deserves. he has altogether rejected my son because of his delay. Do you understand? My STBX doesn't want anything to do with HIS SON because of our SON's DELAY? My STBX would prefer it if i gave him our 3 year old daughter. HE ALREADY ASKED IF *SHE* COULD LIVE WITH HIM. She says that he touches her vagina when she sleeps with him and she hurt her vagina. I guess this is why he wants her so bad? my STBX is a typical abuser, he is their poster child. Do you know anything about abusers? Please look up some info on the web. One of his own colleagues in the military turned him in. I have a very long, long story..is there a place here to put it? it took me 6 pages to write about the abuse that has been going on in my 8 year marriage. Thank You.

 

[casa]

That makes NO sense....If your child is telling you this man touches her like that and hurts her ~ WHY would you have "no problem" with him visiting your children?
This is a very very serious issue- yet it was not mentioned in one of your posts until now??? How can that be? If my daughter told me that, I'd be dealing with it PRONTO. Police, Child Services, Therapists, Restraining Orders.

This is a convoluted mess. You need to get your issues in priority here