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joni25

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He promised he had a vasectomy and intentionally got me pregnant. Not believing in abortion, I will have the child.

Since he lied and it ruined (drastically altered for the worse) my life. Do I have the right to...
1. sole custody
2. make him pay, completely, for the child's upbringing?

Since the child is a part of myself, I'm willing to keep it and raise it. But should I be forced to finance even half (a very major cost)? I think he should be required to accept full responsibility for his intentional actions.
Any thoughts, advice?
Thank you.
 


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D. D. Lessenberry

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I dont often come to this board any longer.

First of all (and I am not professing any religion nor am I passing moral judgement), you have the option of adoption and open adoption.

Secondl, the court will look at your income and his income and base his child support on that.

Perhaps counseling could help you with your ambivalence about your future child.

Good luck.
 
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BugHogan

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I agree with the above poster, you should consider adoption especially if you feel that this child "will ruin your life." There are plenty of people out there that can't have children that would be more than happy to adopt and love that child.

You made the choice to lay down with this man with the full knowledge that unprotected sex CAN result in pregnancy. You can't always believe what people tell you. Some people will say anything to have intimate relations (but I'm on the pill, the doctor told me I'm sterile, but I love you, I've had a vasectomy). Since you made that choice, morally and in the eyes of the law you are 50% responsible for the financial and emotional upbringing of that child. You can make him pay child support through a court order, but you will be solely responsible for your half of the child's support. Children are expensive, good luck.
 
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2goodgirls

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This bothers me! How old are you? certainly old enough to know that sex can result in pregnancy. So he told you he had a vasectomy, but many do and many fail, you slept him how dare you blame him.

How long did you know him? long enough to make the decision to sleep with him with no protection? your lucky you didn't get more than pregnant.

Maybe adoption would be the babies best option, how would you like to be raised to later find out that you ruined your mothers life, what a sad situation for the baby to be born into. But you could make the babies situation and some childless couples one to rejoice in if you put him or her up for adoption. I aplaud you for not choosing to abort this child.
 

LegalBeagle

Senior Member
joni25 said:
He promised he had a vasectomy and intentionally got me pregnant. Not believing in abortion, I will have the child.

Since he lied and it ruined (drastically altered for the worse) my life. Do I have the right to...
1. sole custody
2. make him pay, completely, for the child's upbringing?

Since the child is a part of myself, I'm willing to keep it and raise it. But should I be forced to finance even half (a very major cost)? I think he should be required to accept full responsibility for his intentional actions.
Any thoughts, advice?
Thank you.
Oh pleeessseeeee!!!! geeze..
This is entirely YOU OWN FAULT. So, first of all, stop blaming others. Then, take a sex education class. Lastly, put the child up for adoption so that the love he/she receives will not be based on a check book.

Oh, and please.. don't ever have sex again..


 

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