Topgun1969
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? North Carolina
Ok, trying to make a long story short but almost impossible. I had a live in girlfriend whom i met that had problems with family and i felt sorry for her and let her move in with me to help her get a better life. She had 3 children and come to find out each with a different father. As time went by we had 1 ourselves and i felt the need to try hard to have a family. She started having problems with narcotic pain relievers and went to rehab to get help. After that things seemed to went fine.
Then her family started getting more involved with her and our relationship. She started running off and staying gone late at night. She was having an affair with a boy taking narcotics. As hard as it was, i gave her one more chance. On occasions she would leave and be gone from the whole weekends to a week at a time. She would look for arguments just to have a reason to leave. One time in particular she left for a weekend and had a room purchased from one of her ex-boyfriends parents at a motel. I searched for her that weekend to catch her at the motel and she rushed to get into the room from whoever was on the inside to open the door. When i approached the door she threatened she would call the desk and have me forced to leave. When her weekend came to a end she came home late satuday night messed up on drugs. She admitted to doing drugs. I am sure more than narcotics because i heard that cocaine was involved with her ex-boyfriend. What hurt the most was the only child she had with her in the motel room was my little girl not even 2 at the time. Me being upset finally tried calling this relationship to an end.
Later she came to me and said she was pregnant stating it was mine and she was with no one else. Me pondering if there is a chance of that, decided to try and take care of her again. Things got real bad from here. She started narcotics again, constantly wanting to go out and purchase them. Using her pregnancy as an excuse for backpain to get them. She constantly kept going to the hospital to get them. Things started disappearing around home and even worse my mothers DVD's that my girlfriend would borrow was vanishing as well. I disagreed with things that caused many arguments between us. Whenever i tried to have her to move out she would threaten me with (you cannot make me leave, my stuff is here and i have every right to be here.) The home is owned by my father but she made accusations to me stating she would call the law and tell them i hit her to make me get locked up and she would stay there. Me under this threat started seeing a totally different person and i feared for what might happen to me.
One night i was trying to sleep to be ready for work the next morning. She kept me awake all night arguing with me. She told me she called her mother to come and get her, she was leaving. Me thinking, ok maybe for the best, especially for the children whom are always the innocent victims here. I finally woke up and waited for her to show. She never did, when i had my doubts on her mother showing she started acting aggressive and hit me with the telephone, causing my eye to later blacken. I finally told her if she didn't leave i was calling the sheriff dept to have her leave. She then picked up the telephone and called 911 and had them come out for a disturbance. They did appear and luckily she didn't tell them any lies like i feared she would. They just spoke to us both. I told the law i wanted her to leave but i did not enforce it because her being pregnant. So i agreed to let her stay. After all this i went into our room and turned on my computer. I then turned on my webcam and videoed the rest of the night. Me keeping myself in the room and shut the monitor off. I also called her mother to come and get the kids out of there because they were waking up and did not need to be there during this. Her mother finally showed up and then my girlfriend started acting even more aggressive. Her mother stated if you cannot get along with each other we need to part ways. I totally agreed and walked out of the home to get some peace for a bit.
Behind my back she was telling her mother i was running around saying she is taking drugs. She was even making comments to her mother that i was taking drugs. She told her mother that the law told her if i hit her they would come back and lock me up. She said the sorry ******* is lucky i don't take papers out on him. She also was telling the children 7yr old and lower that if i didn't leave i was going be leaving in a ambulance or a trip to the morgue. She threatened my life to her mother and the children. She also stated that she would call the law back and tell them i hit her just to get me locked up claiming that they would bump her up the list to be put in a safe house for 48 hours and then get a apartment of her own. She was using very profane language during this whole time around the children. I dare not say them here. Finally when the rest of the night had come to an end. she left the next day for awhile, then it was like everything was fine with her.
I will say about 3 weeks to a month later she left again after giving birth to twins. *The twins were born premature and had to be place in the neonatal ICU.* She Wanted to get out and find something i assume but she couldn't because the car was in the shop for repairs. At this time i was needing to leave for only 30 minutes to get some sizes for a supermarket job that i was needing to turn in on a IVR system for work. I had asked my father to loan me their car so i could do it. She told me if i left she was going to leave but it also meant in me being fired because i had been neglecting my job responsibilities for her during her pregancy just trying to be there as much as i could through her complications of the pregnancy. When i left she called me on my cell and told me she was leaving. I said ok, but why? She hung up. I was gone 25 minutes and she had called her sister to come and get her. This sister she called is the one who had prescription drugs and was giving them to her. I knew what she was wanting by the aggressive act she was showing at the time. The neighbors spotted her leaving on foot down the road with all 4 children to be picked up by her sister. This twisting up my nerves had finally decided to end our relationship indefinately.
The very next day i slept in from being up late the night before. She had returned without my knowledge to get the car seats out of our home to go get the twins out of the hospital. The twins were coming home. She sneaked in without waking me up and left. She then went to my parents who lived just a walking distance from us and told them i needed her to get $20.00 for gas to get the twins. I was asleep this whole time and didn't know until my family told me she even came by. I didn't see her again until the next night.
My 1st cousin whom is female had come by to visit with me and see how i was doing because she had heard that i was having problems. Just so happens my girlfriend shows up and comes through the door accusing me of her, threatening to smack the s**t out of me. Calling my cousin terrible names. All i asked her to do was get what she needed and leave. She was raging mad. This scared my cousin and she walked out to leave. I pleaded to her not to leave but she did anyways. After that my girlfriend starting breaking things, lamps, vases, stereos, pictures you name it. She smacked me a couple of times. I ran out to my parents house to call the law, then i returned to tell her they were on the way giving her the chance to leave. *I guess that was my big mistake* My father had decided to stand outside on the driveway to listen to her smashing things. She then picked up the phone and called the law again telling them i attacked her. *note* she had a mark on her right cheek where i think when she knocked the stereo off the dresser, the speakers i had mounted on the wall above it came off by the wire connected to them and struck her on the cheek. When the law came, she used this mark stating i had hit her. They then of course told me zero tolerance law, if she has a mark on her and says i did it. They have to take me in. She was framing me i think because she had it planned with her mother to do it. Ruining my rights to the children. Also to get the apartment i suppose. They locked me up over night and gave me bond in court the next day in the court room. *I was humiliated*. I was released $1500.00 unsecured, i signed myself out. When i was gone i was told by family that she was making up all kinds of lies to the law as they gave her the right to go in my home and obtain some of her things.
Now, since she has been gone for almost a week now. I keep getting phone calls from where her mother works but no messages. I mean sometimes a bunch of calls almost none. I also recieve calls from her mothers home which i suppose is her trying to call me. I figure that they may be calling wanting to make arrangements to get her things. She has things she can make it on with her but much more still remains here. The thing that is strange to me is, why don't they leave a message stating that is what they want? They never leave a message. That to me makes it obvious that they want to speak with me, maybe harrass me or something. I mean, if you call just wanting your things or making arrangements to get them, wouldn't you leave a message asking so? I continue not to answer the phone because i do not understand what exactly they want.
There is so much more to talk about but this has been very torturing. I am sorry for the long write up. All i can say is HELP! What can i do and what could they want?
Tormented.
Ok, trying to make a long story short but almost impossible. I had a live in girlfriend whom i met that had problems with family and i felt sorry for her and let her move in with me to help her get a better life. She had 3 children and come to find out each with a different father. As time went by we had 1 ourselves and i felt the need to try hard to have a family. She started having problems with narcotic pain relievers and went to rehab to get help. After that things seemed to went fine.
Then her family started getting more involved with her and our relationship. She started running off and staying gone late at night. She was having an affair with a boy taking narcotics. As hard as it was, i gave her one more chance. On occasions she would leave and be gone from the whole weekends to a week at a time. She would look for arguments just to have a reason to leave. One time in particular she left for a weekend and had a room purchased from one of her ex-boyfriends parents at a motel. I searched for her that weekend to catch her at the motel and she rushed to get into the room from whoever was on the inside to open the door. When i approached the door she threatened she would call the desk and have me forced to leave. When her weekend came to a end she came home late satuday night messed up on drugs. She admitted to doing drugs. I am sure more than narcotics because i heard that cocaine was involved with her ex-boyfriend. What hurt the most was the only child she had with her in the motel room was my little girl not even 2 at the time. Me being upset finally tried calling this relationship to an end.
Later she came to me and said she was pregnant stating it was mine and she was with no one else. Me pondering if there is a chance of that, decided to try and take care of her again. Things got real bad from here. She started narcotics again, constantly wanting to go out and purchase them. Using her pregnancy as an excuse for backpain to get them. She constantly kept going to the hospital to get them. Things started disappearing around home and even worse my mothers DVD's that my girlfriend would borrow was vanishing as well. I disagreed with things that caused many arguments between us. Whenever i tried to have her to move out she would threaten me with (you cannot make me leave, my stuff is here and i have every right to be here.) The home is owned by my father but she made accusations to me stating she would call the law and tell them i hit her to make me get locked up and she would stay there. Me under this threat started seeing a totally different person and i feared for what might happen to me.
One night i was trying to sleep to be ready for work the next morning. She kept me awake all night arguing with me. She told me she called her mother to come and get her, she was leaving. Me thinking, ok maybe for the best, especially for the children whom are always the innocent victims here. I finally woke up and waited for her to show. She never did, when i had my doubts on her mother showing she started acting aggressive and hit me with the telephone, causing my eye to later blacken. I finally told her if she didn't leave i was calling the sheriff dept to have her leave. She then picked up the telephone and called 911 and had them come out for a disturbance. They did appear and luckily she didn't tell them any lies like i feared she would. They just spoke to us both. I told the law i wanted her to leave but i did not enforce it because her being pregnant. So i agreed to let her stay. After all this i went into our room and turned on my computer. I then turned on my webcam and videoed the rest of the night. Me keeping myself in the room and shut the monitor off. I also called her mother to come and get the kids out of there because they were waking up and did not need to be there during this. Her mother finally showed up and then my girlfriend started acting even more aggressive. Her mother stated if you cannot get along with each other we need to part ways. I totally agreed and walked out of the home to get some peace for a bit.
Behind my back she was telling her mother i was running around saying she is taking drugs. She was even making comments to her mother that i was taking drugs. She told her mother that the law told her if i hit her they would come back and lock me up. She said the sorry ******* is lucky i don't take papers out on him. She also was telling the children 7yr old and lower that if i didn't leave i was going be leaving in a ambulance or a trip to the morgue. She threatened my life to her mother and the children. She also stated that she would call the law back and tell them i hit her just to get me locked up claiming that they would bump her up the list to be put in a safe house for 48 hours and then get a apartment of her own. She was using very profane language during this whole time around the children. I dare not say them here. Finally when the rest of the night had come to an end. she left the next day for awhile, then it was like everything was fine with her.
I will say about 3 weeks to a month later she left again after giving birth to twins. *The twins were born premature and had to be place in the neonatal ICU.* She Wanted to get out and find something i assume but she couldn't because the car was in the shop for repairs. At this time i was needing to leave for only 30 minutes to get some sizes for a supermarket job that i was needing to turn in on a IVR system for work. I had asked my father to loan me their car so i could do it. She told me if i left she was going to leave but it also meant in me being fired because i had been neglecting my job responsibilities for her during her pregancy just trying to be there as much as i could through her complications of the pregnancy. When i left she called me on my cell and told me she was leaving. I said ok, but why? She hung up. I was gone 25 minutes and she had called her sister to come and get her. This sister she called is the one who had prescription drugs and was giving them to her. I knew what she was wanting by the aggressive act she was showing at the time. The neighbors spotted her leaving on foot down the road with all 4 children to be picked up by her sister. This twisting up my nerves had finally decided to end our relationship indefinately.
The very next day i slept in from being up late the night before. She had returned without my knowledge to get the car seats out of our home to go get the twins out of the hospital. The twins were coming home. She sneaked in without waking me up and left. She then went to my parents who lived just a walking distance from us and told them i needed her to get $20.00 for gas to get the twins. I was asleep this whole time and didn't know until my family told me she even came by. I didn't see her again until the next night.
My 1st cousin whom is female had come by to visit with me and see how i was doing because she had heard that i was having problems. Just so happens my girlfriend shows up and comes through the door accusing me of her, threatening to smack the s**t out of me. Calling my cousin terrible names. All i asked her to do was get what she needed and leave. She was raging mad. This scared my cousin and she walked out to leave. I pleaded to her not to leave but she did anyways. After that my girlfriend starting breaking things, lamps, vases, stereos, pictures you name it. She smacked me a couple of times. I ran out to my parents house to call the law, then i returned to tell her they were on the way giving her the chance to leave. *I guess that was my big mistake* My father had decided to stand outside on the driveway to listen to her smashing things. She then picked up the phone and called the law again telling them i attacked her. *note* she had a mark on her right cheek where i think when she knocked the stereo off the dresser, the speakers i had mounted on the wall above it came off by the wire connected to them and struck her on the cheek. When the law came, she used this mark stating i had hit her. They then of course told me zero tolerance law, if she has a mark on her and says i did it. They have to take me in. She was framing me i think because she had it planned with her mother to do it. Ruining my rights to the children. Also to get the apartment i suppose. They locked me up over night and gave me bond in court the next day in the court room. *I was humiliated*. I was released $1500.00 unsecured, i signed myself out. When i was gone i was told by family that she was making up all kinds of lies to the law as they gave her the right to go in my home and obtain some of her things.
Now, since she has been gone for almost a week now. I keep getting phone calls from where her mother works but no messages. I mean sometimes a bunch of calls almost none. I also recieve calls from her mothers home which i suppose is her trying to call me. I figure that they may be calling wanting to make arrangements to get her things. She has things she can make it on with her but much more still remains here. The thing that is strange to me is, why don't they leave a message stating that is what they want? They never leave a message. That to me makes it obvious that they want to speak with me, maybe harrass me or something. I mean, if you call just wanting your things or making arrangements to get them, wouldn't you leave a message asking so? I continue not to answer the phone because i do not understand what exactly they want.
There is so much more to talk about but this has been very torturing. I am sorry for the long write up. All i can say is HELP! What can i do and what could they want?
Tormented.
