tigger22472
Senior Member
OK.. I haven't responded here just because I've tried to keep my 'big fat mouth shut' but I just can't do it anymore. Things like this just tick me off!!
I will agree that the whole 'standard of living' as if the parents never divorced is a crock and I do agree that there are CP's that don't take care of the kids and use CS correctly but is it really about money? Would they take care of the kids properly if they weren't allotted CS monies? To me it's more about the neglect of the parent then it is where the monies are going.
With that said, this BS of accounting for where every penny of CS goes and having receipts and the like is just that... BS. How many people here separate all monies? What I mean is for example and NCP and a CP (obviously from different relationships) live in a house together. The CP gets CS from an ex while the NCP pays to their ex. Does the CP take that money, put it in a special account to pay specific things? No. Should they? No. We have gone over all the things that CS is to cover and as long as those things are met there is nothing that can be done.
kandyflip03 has been given a hard time here over a comment and although I admit her posts have drove me to near insanity I will stick up for her here. If a CP pays all the bills at the first of the month, in the middle of the month when CS comes in if the CP wants to buys clothes for themselves, or spend that money on them, they have that right. They have already paid the portion that the CS was to cover with their own monies.
Again, the point is that if the children aren't being cared for it's not a matter of money. It's a matter of neglect! Period. It really depends on what the infractions are if it's a custody breaker or not. Either way if a NCP doesn't feel the children are being taken care of the issue needs to be addressed.
I will agree that the whole 'standard of living' as if the parents never divorced is a crock and I do agree that there are CP's that don't take care of the kids and use CS correctly but is it really about money? Would they take care of the kids properly if they weren't allotted CS monies? To me it's more about the neglect of the parent then it is where the monies are going.
With that said, this BS of accounting for where every penny of CS goes and having receipts and the like is just that... BS. How many people here separate all monies? What I mean is for example and NCP and a CP (obviously from different relationships) live in a house together. The CP gets CS from an ex while the NCP pays to their ex. Does the CP take that money, put it in a special account to pay specific things? No. Should they? No. We have gone over all the things that CS is to cover and as long as those things are met there is nothing that can be done.
kandyflip03 has been given a hard time here over a comment and although I admit her posts have drove me to near insanity I will stick up for her here. If a CP pays all the bills at the first of the month, in the middle of the month when CS comes in if the CP wants to buys clothes for themselves, or spend that money on them, they have that right. They have already paid the portion that the CS was to cover with their own monies.
Again, the point is that if the children aren't being cared for it's not a matter of money. It's a matter of neglect! Period. It really depends on what the infractions are if it's a custody breaker or not. Either way if a NCP doesn't feel the children are being taken care of the issue needs to be addressed.