California
In March of 2014 I moved from where I was located to go to school 4 hours away. The person I was dating/sort of seeing at the time wanted to help me financially so I could focus on my studies. He surprised me one week before I moved with a credit card he got for me (he ordered a card with my name on it) that he said I could use for my expenses. Gas food and anything else I would need. There was no agreement made to pay him back. No signed documents. He said he was doing it because he loved me and wanted to help me. So, believing him, I accepted his generous gift of financial aide.
Fast forward a year and I've graduated from school. I was sincerely planning on moving home, but life happens, things change and people fall in and out of love every day. Some good opportunities came up for me in the area I now live, and I decided to take them. I broke up with my now ex. Now he is really upset and threatening to sue me for the money I spent on that card (15,000 over a year). He wrote me a letter in the mail saying I need to move home and that he has legal grounds to sue me because I promised I would move home. He said I need to move home and start a life with him, otherwise be prepared to pay him back all the money he spent on me. Well, I was fully intending on moving home until I got some good opportunities. I suppose I understand that he probably feels used. But I really did love him and was myself very hurt about the breakup.
Now I'm really fearful that he is going to take me to court. I know he has texts messages from me stating my intentions to move home. But I also told him immediately when I decided I wasn't moving home. He is claiming those texts are "legally binding documents." I also have a text from him saying "it is financial aide and I wouldn't come after you." That he wrote several months ago.
I feel like this is some sick sort of extortion. I blocked his number and he is still managing to contact me.
What do I do
In March of 2014 I moved from where I was located to go to school 4 hours away. The person I was dating/sort of seeing at the time wanted to help me financially so I could focus on my studies. He surprised me one week before I moved with a credit card he got for me (he ordered a card with my name on it) that he said I could use for my expenses. Gas food and anything else I would need. There was no agreement made to pay him back. No signed documents. He said he was doing it because he loved me and wanted to help me. So, believing him, I accepted his generous gift of financial aide.
Fast forward a year and I've graduated from school. I was sincerely planning on moving home, but life happens, things change and people fall in and out of love every day. Some good opportunities came up for me in the area I now live, and I decided to take them. I broke up with my now ex. Now he is really upset and threatening to sue me for the money I spent on that card (15,000 over a year). He wrote me a letter in the mail saying I need to move home and that he has legal grounds to sue me because I promised I would move home. He said I need to move home and start a life with him, otherwise be prepared to pay him back all the money he spent on me. Well, I was fully intending on moving home until I got some good opportunities. I suppose I understand that he probably feels used. But I really did love him and was myself very hurt about the breakup.
Now I'm really fearful that he is going to take me to court. I know he has texts messages from me stating my intentions to move home. But I also told him immediately when I decided I wasn't moving home. He is claiming those texts are "legally binding documents." I also have a text from him saying "it is financial aide and I wouldn't come after you." That he wrote several months ago.
I feel like this is some sick sort of extortion. I blocked his number and he is still managing to contact me.
What do I do