JoJo
A voice of sanity in the midst! You know what's most interesting is that every one has assumed I am a man from my post. I never even said it was my personal situation! Wow!
And called names and all! Good grief people!
What a righteous and holy bunch you are! All above making mistakes! How lucky for you all!
I am a woman who has raised a wonderful son without any assistance from welfare or his father. No, it wasn't easy, but it was MY choice. He is 22 now and quite a man. And part of what has made him such a wonderful young man is that he has never been taught to rely on anyone but himself, no excuses or poor me's. No entitlement to anything from anyone!
I have seen what a woman can do to a man. I have a friend who was seduced in the midst of severe depression after his wife divorced him. She was a "friend" offering him comfort, and took advantage of him in his misery. She admits she swore she could not conceive. She admits he told her he did not want to have any more children, BEFORE they had sex. She had his baby anyway, now he has to pay a huge amount of cs to her, along with the back stuff to welfare, which after also payng cs to his ex-wife, leaves him with less than nothing to live on. He is going to have to sell his home, get a second job to pay for this baby he did not agree to have. Or flee and become invisible, which who could blame him?
All this abortion propaganda! WOW! Take the moral road if you must, but don't talk about worry of a scarred uterus being a good reason to have a baby. I am sure if one were to check into statistics about conceiving later, that it would be an incredibly small number who cannot. I think the risk of a scarred uterus against bringing a child into 18+ years of fighting, squabbling, and probable visitation and custody disputes is a bigger risk than scarring one's uterus. If one were to truly think of the best interest of the child, they would choose to wait til they had the stability and responsibility to raise one right! Or at least take responsibility for the choice they made alone for having a baby, and the fact that the cute gooey baby will need 20 years of raising!
I strongly believe that our welfare system is indeed encouraging women to have babies as career moves. I hear the young "ladies" who are wise to the system say so!
Things need to change. Women need to be held accountable for their actions and choices, and not be allowed to victimize men.
Ahhh...but it seems that none of you out there have ever made a mistake, so no mercy to the dumb schmuck who does make a mistake.
He deserves to be ruined, forever, for having trusted a friend, and "she" is entitled to whatever she can suck out of him and the system. And she can feel totally right about doing it, in the name of the law.
How would you feel if this were happening to your son or brother or <gasp> your husband?