State : CA
When I met my wife 8 years ago, she was wearing dress sizes 18 to 20. I also saw her earlier pictures of much larger sizes, so I knew that she was on the right track after 30 plus some years into her life. Not being the superficial guy, looking for the Barbie doll, I proposed and we got married a year later.
Now she is size 28-30. Sex is more of task than pleasure when it happens, which is once a week or even less. In the last few months, I have noticed her belly bulge is getting much more in the way while having sex, making things harder for me but she does not seem to care as long as she is satisfied.
She talks about losing weight but every time she goes to the store, she comes back with a cake or frosted cookies. When I say these are not good for her goals, she mentions that she walks and burns them off. The walk she is talking about is about 1/2 mile that she does every day, which is far less than her caloric intake of junk food daily. So, she just does not REALLY want to lose weight. She also smokes since we met, with the talk of quitting smoking. Whenever I bring either weight loss or quit smoking subjects up, the canned answer is "I am in too much stress".
I on the other hand, am having a marriage without sex, looking at a woman 24/7 who is not a sight for sore eyes, in addition to working like a dog to make a living for both of us. Oh, did I say, she is not working for a salary but trying to run her own gig to no success for the past 2 years ? She did not turn any significant income (maybe 6-7k per year).
If I happen to file for divorce on the basis of my wife failing to perform her wifely duties in the bedroom and exposing herself to the risk of chronic health problems, like heart, lungs and god knows what else, what would be the chances for a clean divorce ? I know as soon as divorce becomes the subjects, she will try to take me to the cleaners, but can she succeed ? We do not have much net worth, maybe 20-30K equity in the properties we own and about same amount of credit card debt, all on the credit cards that is solely under her name.
Thank you.
When I met my wife 8 years ago, she was wearing dress sizes 18 to 20. I also saw her earlier pictures of much larger sizes, so I knew that she was on the right track after 30 plus some years into her life. Not being the superficial guy, looking for the Barbie doll, I proposed and we got married a year later.
Now she is size 28-30. Sex is more of task than pleasure when it happens, which is once a week or even less. In the last few months, I have noticed her belly bulge is getting much more in the way while having sex, making things harder for me but she does not seem to care as long as she is satisfied.
She talks about losing weight but every time she goes to the store, she comes back with a cake or frosted cookies. When I say these are not good for her goals, she mentions that she walks and burns them off. The walk she is talking about is about 1/2 mile that she does every day, which is far less than her caloric intake of junk food daily. So, she just does not REALLY want to lose weight. She also smokes since we met, with the talk of quitting smoking. Whenever I bring either weight loss or quit smoking subjects up, the canned answer is "I am in too much stress".
I on the other hand, am having a marriage without sex, looking at a woman 24/7 who is not a sight for sore eyes, in addition to working like a dog to make a living for both of us. Oh, did I say, she is not working for a salary but trying to run her own gig to no success for the past 2 years ? She did not turn any significant income (maybe 6-7k per year).
If I happen to file for divorce on the basis of my wife failing to perform her wifely duties in the bedroom and exposing herself to the risk of chronic health problems, like heart, lungs and god knows what else, what would be the chances for a clean divorce ? I know as soon as divorce becomes the subjects, she will try to take me to the cleaners, but can she succeed ? We do not have much net worth, maybe 20-30K equity in the properties we own and about same amount of credit card debt, all on the credit cards that is solely under her name.
Thank you.