So you're NOT going to get a restraining order??
What you are not getting is that a violation of a restraining order comes with SPECIFIC AND STRICTER penalties. The reason we've been telling you to get a restraining order is because your ex is violating the current order & you need action NOW. So, getting that restraining order is "clarifying it" temporarily, per se. And it also clarifies it for the school, since they should not be put in a position of trying to decipher the meaning of your order.
If you don't file an RO and decide to file a motion for clarification and/or even a Motion to Show Cause, then you'll have to wait for a date to be set blah blah blah. That does NOT happen for a restraining order. Once you get the RO, you file a motion for clarification and also consider filing a motion to show cause for contempt against your ex for violating the current order.
Umm...sorry, but Obama's "Change" message was not in reference to your legal proceedings.
Get the RO and drop your damn 'tude on here since people are trying to help you...
FOR FREAKING FREE I might add.