geraldine17
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
I am about to enter my second trimester of pregnancy. I have hyperemesis and was put on bed rest last Friday for a threatened miscarriage.
My husband and I have two other children. I was quite ill while pregnant with both of them, too.
I was a stay at home mom from August 2001 until November 2004. I worked from November 2004 until February 2007. I've been a stay at home mom again since then.
My husband has withdrawn completely with this pregnancy. He goes out with friends, goes out of town. He said his heart isn't in taking care of me. He complained that I am always sick when I am pregnant and should just get used to it. His neglect has made me feel terrible. Even if he doesn't love me anymore, it doesn't make sense that he wouldn't help take care of the kids...including the one I'm pregnant with. I just couldn't find a way to explain his actions. He just unexpectedly and abruptly pulled away.
I found out yesterday that he is having an affair. I think it has been going on since early August.
Under most circumstances, I would stick it out and make the marriage work for the sake of co-parenting our children. I don't think I can get past the neglect AND the affair.
I want to leave and take the children with me but I have few resources available to me. I have no money, I have nowhere to go, and I can't throw my husband out because we're living in a house owned by his parents. They do not like me. Even if I was successful in getting my husband to leave, they would come evict me. We have no lease.
From what I understand, in my state, there is no legal separation and you can't get divorced when you are pregnant. (Or, in the man's case, you can't divorce your pregnant wife.) Is that true?
What other options do I have? I just don't know what to do. My husband is out of town this week and doesn't know that I know about the affair. Should I save that for the divorce proceedings?
I apologize for the length of this post, I just wanted to make sure to provide all of the details. Also, my head is still spinning from...well, everything.
Thank you.
I am about to enter my second trimester of pregnancy. I have hyperemesis and was put on bed rest last Friday for a threatened miscarriage.
My husband and I have two other children. I was quite ill while pregnant with both of them, too.
I was a stay at home mom from August 2001 until November 2004. I worked from November 2004 until February 2007. I've been a stay at home mom again since then.
My husband has withdrawn completely with this pregnancy. He goes out with friends, goes out of town. He said his heart isn't in taking care of me. He complained that I am always sick when I am pregnant and should just get used to it. His neglect has made me feel terrible. Even if he doesn't love me anymore, it doesn't make sense that he wouldn't help take care of the kids...including the one I'm pregnant with. I just couldn't find a way to explain his actions. He just unexpectedly and abruptly pulled away.
I found out yesterday that he is having an affair. I think it has been going on since early August.
Under most circumstances, I would stick it out and make the marriage work for the sake of co-parenting our children. I don't think I can get past the neglect AND the affair.
I want to leave and take the children with me but I have few resources available to me. I have no money, I have nowhere to go, and I can't throw my husband out because we're living in a house owned by his parents. They do not like me. Even if I was successful in getting my husband to leave, they would come evict me. We have no lease.
From what I understand, in my state, there is no legal separation and you can't get divorced when you are pregnant. (Or, in the man's case, you can't divorce your pregnant wife.) Is that true?
What other options do I have? I just don't know what to do. My husband is out of town this week and doesn't know that I know about the affair. Should I save that for the divorce proceedings?
I apologize for the length of this post, I just wanted to make sure to provide all of the details. Also, my head is still spinning from...well, everything.
Thank you.