Are you kidding me?
First off, when you posted this question, did you really believe that someone would post some sort of a revelation such as.....oh sweetie, your right, you should not have to support your son. They are being unfair to you in your situation. Legal advice is that you are not responsible to support your child and how unfair is it that the father would request such a thing from you. Just don't pay it!!! The law is that they can't force you to do anything.....GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!!!! First off, the father doesn't have the option of looking at your son and saying "sweetheart, I don't have enough money for you to be able to eat today" Second, visitation and child support have nothing to do with each other. One does not justify the other. I was a single mother raising 2 children for a long time. My ex-husband remarried, had another baby, and can't pay his child support. He is $17000.00 in the rears. He is court ordered no visitation. His response "your mom has married someone with money now, he's rich, I shouldn't have to pay support" come on....where do these type of people come from? My husband took this as a package deal - that still doesn't mean that he is financially responsible for every aspect of their life. You asked for legal advice, rather than to be judged. Here is it sweetie......He can't FORCE you to sign over your parental rights, but, seems to me you want out of your responsibility - sign him over. It's the only way to stop the current support from adding up. If you want him in your life GET A JOB!! No other way out. Choice 1 or Choice 2. if you don't pay the support now......you do have the option of having the amount build up and then you could get current when your situation changes. Just know that if you don't take care of it, the amount will continue to build against you as it has against the father of my children. When you are in arrears in child support you can get your DL suspended, will be unable to get your tax return (it will go straight to the father of your son) and you won't be able to buy a house in the future until it is resolved. - of course, when you CAN afford to buy a house you will be in a better situation to pay your support and if you can afford the house, you can afford to support 1/2 of your son's expenses (at least that's how it should be) Just remember, that child is just as much your blood as the one you are carrying now. Your ex didn't get pregnant on his own and if you play you pay. Non-custodial parents who can't pay their child support should be FORCED into birth control. Your an adult right?? Part of living in the "real" world is learning to take care of your responsibilites...not just to wonder around the earth, doing whatever you damn well please and expecting other people to clean up the mess you leave behind.