Mother fighting Father for her kids..

[Emmyjeang]

Damn I hurt her feelings. But if there are no court orders then she should go get HER CHILD if that child is NOT LEGALLY his. The non-biological that is with him. Of course why her attorney would not have told her that I don't know which has me wondering.

You cannot hurt my feelings. My attorney told me I could go get my little girl. BUT, the law guardians say his opinion matters even though he has no rights. (Bias court) they think im the bad guy.. I am all for my kids and their feelings. Its not about me or the ex. It is about these kids.

 

[Silverplum]

You cannot hurt my feelings. My attorney told me I could go get my little girl. BUT, the law guardians say his opinion matters even though he has no rights. (Bias court) they think im the bad guy.. I am all for my kids and their feelings. Its not about me or the ex. It is about these kids.

What about child support? Anything to say on the subject?

 

[StampGirl]

What about child support? Anything to say on the subject?

I believe she said that the mediation agreement they have said that neither party can ask or pursue child support. BUT now the Dad is asking for support.

For goodness sake, go get your daughter. She is living with someone who isn't her Dad. *sigh*

What a mess.

 

[Emmyjeang]

I believe she said that the mediation agreement they have said that neither party can ask or pursue child support. BUT now the Dad is asking for support.

For goodness sake, go get your daughter. She is living with someone who isn't her Dad. *sigh*

What a mess.

If I could go get my kid without going to jail I would. He is a legal guardian. He didn't adopt her but he is a guardian. Mess is not a strong enough word for this..

 

[Emmyjeang]

If the father is taking care of his own child plus someone else's child , I dont blame him for asking for child support. Mom lives a ways with joint custody . Even though dad may be doing things wrong here it does not sound like mom has been supporting her kids and is getting off scotch free.

You are not understanding I pay his utility bills when he needs help. He has 3 other kids living in the same house. He is only taking me to court because i am taking him to court for custody. He is crying poverty when i am trying to gain custody.

 

[Emmyjeang]

If the father is taking care of his own child plus someone else's child , I dont blame him for asking for child support. Mom lives a ways with joint custody . Even though dad may be doing things wrong here it does not sound like mom has been supporting her kids and is getting off scotch free.

Scotch free?? Me fighting every day with my ex to give me back my kids, paying 700 a month for insurance when the ex wanted them to stay on medicaid, paying for cell phones for my kids that the ex hides from them so I can't talk to them, I call my kids every night and get no answer or a call back from my ex. My kids are 10 and 8. They tell me all the time they would rather live here with me. Scotch free?? um no.. I don't want to be scotch free. I am just trying to do my part. My ex will not let me do my part.

 

[Emmyjeang]

how often is that? Just when he needs help?

The other kids living there doesnt matter either. It has no bearing on what you should provide for your children.

If I had all those kids raising them I'd be crying poverty too! I would also be taking the other parent to court for child support.

Thankfully we've never been in a positiion that my husband need to ask for child support for his son. He always felt if she wanted to be a mother she would do what a mother should which includes providing for your children.

He should have asked for support a long time ago

And why again have you not gone and picked up Your child?

I do my part. I buy their clothes, I buy them the toys they want, I help the Ex pay his utility bills. He is ONLY taking me to court because I filed for custody. One week after I filed custody he filed for support. I have NO problem paying for my kids. none at all!! I give him 600 dollars to bring them to me every holiday or i will go up there to see them. I didn't just vanish..

 

[Emmyjeang]

how often is that? Just when he needs help?

The other kids living there doesnt matter either. It has no bearing on what you should provide for your children.

If I had all those kids raising them I'd be crying poverty too! I would also be taking the other parent to court for child support.

Thankfully we've never been in a positiion that my husband need to ask for child support for his son. He always felt if she wanted to be a mother she would do what a mother should which includes providing for your children.

He should have asked for support a long time ago

And why again have you not gone and picked up Your child?

What about the bio dad?? If I go and pick up my kid, won't I get in trouble?? The guardians say his opinion matters..If he says no then they use that. He has no rights. He doesn't pay support. I dropped him from support when my daughter was 3. Kids need love not money..

 

[mommyof4]

Honest (yet snarky sounding) question:

Why does it take a man to tell you what to do when and how?

First, your ex tells you how it's going to be with the kids.

Next, your new husband tells you to 'snap out of it'.

Is there some reason you can't think for yourself and do what you KNOW is correct? How in the world would you let anyone convince you to leave YOUR child with your ex-boyfriend? That's just bizarre and honestly makes me question whether or not you would have the mental wherewithal to make the necessary decisions for your children if you were granted the right to make those decisions ie: primary custody.

It really doesn't matter WHY he is filing for CS. The fact is that he is (and has been) legally entitled to recieve support for your for your and y'all's children.

 

[mommyof4]

What about the bio dad?? If I go and pick up my kid, won't I get in trouble?? The guardians say his opinion matters..If he says no then they use that. He has no rights. He doesn't pay support. I dropped him from support when my daughter was 3. Kids need love not money..

Is the father of your child even the LEGAL father of your child? Go get your kiddo. If Dad has a problem with it, HE can file in court for custody.

 

[Emmyjeang]

Are you saying the bio father has custody of this child?

Is there a court order for this child?

Who has custody? Legally?

My ex and I share joint custody. the ex (Mark) has primary placement. The bio dad (Brian)does not have many rights at all.

 

[Emmyjeang]

Honest (yet snarky sounding) question:

Why does it take a man to tell you what to do when and how?

First, your ex tells you how it's going to be with the kids.

Next, your new husband tells you to 'snap out of it'.

Is there some reason you can't think for yourself and do what you KNOW is correct? How in the world would you let anyone convince you to leave YOUR child with your ex-boyfriend? That's just bizarre and honestly makes me question whether or not you would have the mental wherewithal to make the necessary decisions for your children if you were granted the right to make those decisions ie: primary custody.

It really doesn't matter WHY he is filing for CS. The fact is that he is (and has been) legally entitled to recieve support for your for your and y'all's children.

See, my ex led me to believe that I had a mental problem. I went to see a DR. and you those doctors will medicate anyone. I got on meds and he said those weren't strong enough. I went back until I got to the point I was pretty much a robot. I was his robot. I wasn't allowed to work. I was a stay at home mom which was great. People around me were telling me that the relationship was unhealthy. I switched shrinks and she told me that he is narcisistic and he HAS to have control and that he has been controlling me. SO, the shrink is helping me at trial in May.

 

[Emmyjeang]

Honest (yet snarky sounding) question:

Why does it take a man to tell you what to do when and how?

First, your ex tells you how it's going to be with the kids.

Next, your new husband tells you to 'snap out of it'.

Is there some reason you can't think for yourself and do what you KNOW is correct? How in the world would you let anyone convince you to leave YOUR child with your ex-boyfriend? That's just bizarre and honestly makes me question whether or not you would have the mental wherewithal to make the necessary decisions for your children if you were granted the right to make those decisions ie: primary custody.

It really doesn't matter WHY he is filing for CS. The fact is that he is (and has been) legally entitled to recieve support for your for your and y'all's children.

I have been degraded enough. Don't belittle me. Teach me. Give me proper advice. A MAN is the one that made me so unsure of myself. I have always been all about my kids ALWAYS!! I moved out of the little town I was in because I wasn't making enough money to get them things they really needed. Like my daughter needs braces. I am paying for all of that. If I would have stayed there her teeth would never get fixed. I do things that will benefit them in the future. I have school funds for them things like that.

 

[Emmyjeang]

When you say joint custody are you talking about the child you share together ? Right? Or did he somehow obtain custody of BOTH children?

If he only has custody of the child you have together which is what it should be if your telling the whole story then you go get your child.

If the bio dad does not have custody his "opinion" does not matter. What matters is a court order.

Ok the court order says that ALanna (which is my daughter) resides at ex's house with me being secondary placement. I have as many rights as him. We are equal except where she lives.

 

[mommyof4]

See, my ex led me to believe that I had a mental problem. I went to see a DR. and you those doctors will medicate anyone. I got on meds and he said those weren't strong enough. I went back until I got to the point I was pretty much a robot. I was his robot. I wasn't allowed to work. I was a stay at home mom which was great. People around me were telling me that the relationship was unhealthy. I switched shrinks and she told me that he is narcisistic and he HAS to have control and that he has been controlling me. SO, the shrink is helping me at trial in May.

Yeah...

Okay, first, if my husband told me I had mental problems, I would probably slap him upside the head and declare my mental problems cured, but that's just me. (and no, I am not advocating physical violence...it's a figure of speech).

Anywho....

Your psychiatrist has not diagnosed and/or treated your ex, so his/her testimony is worth diddly squat.

So now, not only do you have the problem that you voluntarily left your children with him (thus stating loud and clear you thought he was a fit father and that was the best situation for your children) you also have a documented history or mental illness. Sweetie...you got problems here and I don't know that any of us are the ones to give you the help you need in this mess. We can give you general legal info and advice, but your issues are HUGE.