devin.high
Junior Member
My name is Devin and I am from Arizona. I am a single father with joint custody of my daughter. I recently got out of the military and due to false allegations of domestic violence that my ex wife levied on me in 2008 the border patrol turned me away. Like any good soldier I had a plan B. I enrolled in college and now am on my way to getting my RN liscense. I started a new romantic relationship about a month ago with someone who I have a deep connection with. My ex wife had calmed her shenanigans for a good while. Of course there were always the random spats here and there but for the most part things have been not too bad. Until tuesday. I have my visits with my daughter tuesdays, thursdays, and every other weekend. My girlfriend was with me when I dropped her off after my visit. My ex wife's current boyfriend was the one who recieved my daughter from me. The next day my ex wife sent me a text message telling me I HAD to tell her who my girlfriend was because if she was going to be around my daughter it was her right to know. Based on past experiences with my ex and letting her know who I was dating I decided it was not a good idea. I politely told her it was none of her business and since I had to trust her judgement she had to trust mine. My ex has issues with being told no. So you can imagine what my wednesday was like on my cell phone. Thursday since my girlfriend and I carpool to school she was with me both for pickup and drop off. My ex was the one there both times this time. Once again I was harrassed about my love life. Now whenever I have any person to person contact with my ex wife I have a voice recorder with microphone taping the encounter. So during drop off my ex got very callous with me so I just said bye and left. This weekend was supposed to be my weekend with my daughter. My girlfriend and I showed up on friday at 550pm to pick up my baby girl at 6. I knocked but there was no answer. I waited until 6pm then texted my ex wife telling her i was spotting her 10 minutes then I was going to file a report for custodial interferance. Little did I know my ex was already at the police station filing for an emergency protection order against me. So when I walked into the police station my ex was there and so was my daughter. My ex was standing in a doorway to a back room and my daughter yelled "Daddy daddy." and ran to me. My ex grabbed her by her arm and started crying and said "Oh my god its him, I can't look at him he scares me so much.". So with a puzzled look on my face I turned to the first officer I saw and told him why I was there. He said that was all well and good but the emergency protection order he needed to serve me with trumped that. As you can guess my jaw dropped to the floor. No one would tell me what I was being accused of. All I was told was that the charges were filed against me in Huachuca city where I live but since the court was in Sierra Vista the order was processed there. So today I had a meeting with the acting chief of Huachuca city police department to address what I was being criminally accused of. Since he was not the investigating officer he could only tell me that the allegations involved my daughter and CPS was involved now. CPS already has an open case on my ex wife for a slap mark bruise she recieved in her care. I expect a call from them monday about these new allegations that are an obvious ploy to get retribution for her cps issues. Monday I have to miss my midterm biology test to appeal the protection order. My girlfriend is a certified paralegal in California but we are in Arizona. She needs help with the statutes and legal numbers and what not to start filing things to stop this. Now this is round 3 of false charges. I am tired of it. This vicious cycle needs to end. Nothing has happened to her for her past lies and deciet. When I get my name cleared this time she will try something else. Every single cop, lawyer, or judge I talk to tells me nothing can be done to stop this. This isn't right. I know it isn't right. I'm tired of being harrassed but the police just shrug and say "sue her". I am a college student living on my GI bill. I cannot afford a lawyer. She wants me ruined. I refuse to fall. I am a blubbering mess right now because my little girl is not in my arms. I could care less about my life to be honest I just care about her. Any advice and or prayers would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all.