FrustratedMom72
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? OH (CS ordered in NJ)
This is a long story so I'll try to sum it up, but I'm trying to help my Dad.
I was 12 when my parents divorced, I'm now 32. I have a sister who is now 25. My Dad was ordered to pay child support. He petitioned the court to decrease the amount after he lost his job making $72,000 a year and ended up leaving NJ and moving to Ohio where he now lives. The court denied his request. So the arrears packed on.
Neither my sister or myself attended college. I moved out at 20, my sister still lives at home with my Mom. So basically, support for me should have stopped accruing 13 years ago, for my sister 6 years ago. My Dad has continued to pay $1400 a month toward arrears to this day. Dad is disabled, he has RSD (reflex sympathetic dystrophy) and extremely limited use of his arm. He collects SSDI, which is intercepted and the $1400 is taken directly out of his check every month and sent to my Mom. This leaves Dad with about $680 a month to live on.
Dad and I sat down about a year ago and calculated all the numbers and figured out that he has overpaid my Mom. She refuses to acknowledge this or assist him in any way whatsoever.
He filed papers with the court over a year ago in NJ to get this to stop, and it continues. He calls at least 3 times a week to the Union County NJ Child Support office to check the status. They are nasty to him and treat him like he's the bad guy, but he's paying money he doesn't owe!! He can't even afford to live on his own, he lives in a friend's basement. He can't afford to go to the doctor or even buy his medications because he's paying $1400 a month to my Mom for child support arrears that he doesn't owe.
At this point, enough is enough, it needs to stop, but he can't afford an attorney, nor does he qualify for aid because they say he makes too much money - even though 3/4 of it he never even sees! What can he do to force these people to listen to him?
When you call the numbers, no one answers, there is no higher up to talk to - he's at their mercy and it's totally unfair! It's to the point of ridiculousness and he needs help as soon as possible. He's very ill, but can't afford to buy his medications, any help would be greatly appreciated.
The CS order is in NJ because Mom still lives in NJ, but Dad lives in Ohio. (reasonably sure that's need to know information)
This is a long story so I'll try to sum it up, but I'm trying to help my Dad.
I was 12 when my parents divorced, I'm now 32. I have a sister who is now 25. My Dad was ordered to pay child support. He petitioned the court to decrease the amount after he lost his job making $72,000 a year and ended up leaving NJ and moving to Ohio where he now lives. The court denied his request. So the arrears packed on.
Neither my sister or myself attended college. I moved out at 20, my sister still lives at home with my Mom. So basically, support for me should have stopped accruing 13 years ago, for my sister 6 years ago. My Dad has continued to pay $1400 a month toward arrears to this day. Dad is disabled, he has RSD (reflex sympathetic dystrophy) and extremely limited use of his arm. He collects SSDI, which is intercepted and the $1400 is taken directly out of his check every month and sent to my Mom. This leaves Dad with about $680 a month to live on.
Dad and I sat down about a year ago and calculated all the numbers and figured out that he has overpaid my Mom. She refuses to acknowledge this or assist him in any way whatsoever.
He filed papers with the court over a year ago in NJ to get this to stop, and it continues. He calls at least 3 times a week to the Union County NJ Child Support office to check the status. They are nasty to him and treat him like he's the bad guy, but he's paying money he doesn't owe!! He can't even afford to live on his own, he lives in a friend's basement. He can't afford to go to the doctor or even buy his medications because he's paying $1400 a month to my Mom for child support arrears that he doesn't owe.
At this point, enough is enough, it needs to stop, but he can't afford an attorney, nor does he qualify for aid because they say he makes too much money - even though 3/4 of it he never even sees! What can he do to force these people to listen to him?
When you call the numbers, no one answers, there is no higher up to talk to - he's at their mercy and it's totally unfair! It's to the point of ridiculousness and he needs help as soon as possible. He's very ill, but can't afford to buy his medications, any help would be greatly appreciated.
The CS order is in NJ because Mom still lives in NJ, but Dad lives in Ohio. (reasonably sure that's need to know information)
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