faith196237
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? New York
My 17 yr old left home in January to live with her 21 yr old boyfriend. She came home for a few weeks but went to stay with him while on Spring break. She came and went as she pleased even if it was at 3:00am. (Not to our wishes) Last night after having a fight with her "boy"friend because she wouldn't make him something to eat, she came to my home, yelled vulgarly at my 6 yr old and then punched a window by my front door. 10 minutes later she's down the road getting in the car with him again. All we could do is stand in amazement. We were having a quiet afternoon and all of a sudden the tornado went through and blew us out of the water, only to leave and tell us we're the bad guys. We called a trooper to make a report. He said we could have her arrested but it would be more trouble in the long run. There is nothing I can do to stop this craziness.
I am currently going through the court to have her father pay support since he decided he doesn't have to pay since she's not at home. That's a whole other battle that's going to cost me a lot.
What other recourse do I have? Even though I never thought I would give my children up, if I intend on having any kind of a sane life I have to. She's just about flunked out of her Sr. year because she kept skipping to watch what the boyfriend does.
Her father won't take her, he wants no part of any of it. He lives about 4 hours away and can't take the time for his children.
I know emancipation is out and unless I can get them to get married I'm stuck with her irresponsibilty. (She's already wrecked his car by hitting someone and blew off her court appearance) I have to keep a place for her to stay and have to put up with her rules thanks to NY laws. Any suggestions????
PS I know all she is doing is stupid and irresponsible but she won't believe that. We do not abuse her, she got anything she wanted within reason. This time she wanted a 21 yr old, we said no and we're getting the crap for it.
My 17 yr old left home in January to live with her 21 yr old boyfriend. She came home for a few weeks but went to stay with him while on Spring break. She came and went as she pleased even if it was at 3:00am. (Not to our wishes) Last night after having a fight with her "boy"friend because she wouldn't make him something to eat, she came to my home, yelled vulgarly at my 6 yr old and then punched a window by my front door. 10 minutes later she's down the road getting in the car with him again. All we could do is stand in amazement. We were having a quiet afternoon and all of a sudden the tornado went through and blew us out of the water, only to leave and tell us we're the bad guys. We called a trooper to make a report. He said we could have her arrested but it would be more trouble in the long run. There is nothing I can do to stop this craziness.
I am currently going through the court to have her father pay support since he decided he doesn't have to pay since she's not at home. That's a whole other battle that's going to cost me a lot.
What other recourse do I have? Even though I never thought I would give my children up, if I intend on having any kind of a sane life I have to. She's just about flunked out of her Sr. year because she kept skipping to watch what the boyfriend does.
Her father won't take her, he wants no part of any of it. He lives about 4 hours away and can't take the time for his children.
I know emancipation is out and unless I can get them to get married I'm stuck with her irresponsibilty. (She's already wrecked his car by hitting someone and blew off her court appearance) I have to keep a place for her to stay and have to put up with her rules thanks to NY laws. Any suggestions????
PS I know all she is doing is stupid and irresponsible but she won't believe that. We do not abuse her, she got anything she wanted within reason. This time she wanted a 21 yr old, we said no and we're getting the crap for it.