What is the name of your state? Washington
Last Sept. 24th, I found out that my wife was still having an affair while lying that it had been over for two months. I told her that since she was making her choices and that it was obvious that she did not want to work on our marriage, I wanted her to stay at a friend's house. She had been saying for weeks that she wanted to be separated so I only thought I was doing what she wanted to do in the first place. I told her I didn't want her to come back until she was willing to work on the marriage. We have 4 children. I told her that she could stay at our house anytime she wanted to be with the kids. It was open 24/7 for her. I was not going to stop her from being with the kids and I never did. It ended up that she would be at the house each day from sunrise to late at night, all on her own free will. I was fine with her staying basically to what amounted to all day at our house. What I didn't want was for her to be spending the nights at the house while the affair was still going on. This went on for about 3 months until New Year's. It was then she said I had kicked her out and I had no legal right to do that. Plus, it was getting old staying at her friend's house. She moved back in January. I reluctantly agreed for two reasons, the affair had ended in November and she said she was willing to go to marriage counseling. But at our third marriage counseling in mid-January, she said she wanted a divorce. It's now mid-March and she's still at the house. She's been having difficulties making enough money to move out and I don't have the means to help her. It's been very difficult for me living with someone this long who wants nothing to do with you. My questions are:
1. Did I really "kick" her out as she says? I believed along with other friends of mine that she had kicked herself out when she continued to have the affair.
2. Did I have any legal right to ask her to leave? Please remember, I never prevented her from coming over to be with the kids. Open 24/7.
3. The marriage counselor told her that she was "staying out of convenience". Can she do this? She's the one who wants the divorce, not me. I want so much for this marriage to work but why should this unhealthy environment continue?
(we are renters, do not own the home)
Thanks for any answers you can give me.
Last Sept. 24th, I found out that my wife was still having an affair while lying that it had been over for two months. I told her that since she was making her choices and that it was obvious that she did not want to work on our marriage, I wanted her to stay at a friend's house. She had been saying for weeks that she wanted to be separated so I only thought I was doing what she wanted to do in the first place. I told her I didn't want her to come back until she was willing to work on the marriage. We have 4 children. I told her that she could stay at our house anytime she wanted to be with the kids. It was open 24/7 for her. I was not going to stop her from being with the kids and I never did. It ended up that she would be at the house each day from sunrise to late at night, all on her own free will. I was fine with her staying basically to what amounted to all day at our house. What I didn't want was for her to be spending the nights at the house while the affair was still going on. This went on for about 3 months until New Year's. It was then she said I had kicked her out and I had no legal right to do that. Plus, it was getting old staying at her friend's house. She moved back in January. I reluctantly agreed for two reasons, the affair had ended in November and she said she was willing to go to marriage counseling. But at our third marriage counseling in mid-January, she said she wanted a divorce. It's now mid-March and she's still at the house. She's been having difficulties making enough money to move out and I don't have the means to help her. It's been very difficult for me living with someone this long who wants nothing to do with you. My questions are:
1. Did I really "kick" her out as she says? I believed along with other friends of mine that she had kicked herself out when she continued to have the affair.
2. Did I have any legal right to ask her to leave? Please remember, I never prevented her from coming over to be with the kids. Open 24/7.
3. The marriage counselor told her that she was "staying out of convenience". Can she do this? She's the one who wants the divorce, not me. I want so much for this marriage to work but why should this unhealthy environment continue?
(we are renters, do not own the home)
Thanks for any answers you can give me.