inthetrailer
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? OHIO
My wife and I have been informally separated for almost a full year now. We had another house which I was living in but sold it two months ago. I've been living on our property in a trailer since then, hence the screen name. Everything is still shared between us - we have equal access to bank accounts, etc., and while we have talked about filing we never do anything about it. I am finally ready to make this a legal separation.
We are both fairly cheap people, and things are amicable between us, and I think we will try to do most of this on our own with the exception of hiring a lawyer at the end to review the docs before filing. She saw a lawyer earlier this year and has some idea of what she can get. I have a better idea and know that she can totally screw me if this goes to divorce. I would like to come up with a very fair offer for her, one that she will accept without making her question if I am trying to get the best of her.
We are both 35 and been married 14 years now. She hadn't worked in over 10 years but just got a job last month making $10/hr, 20 hrs a week. I made $145k last year and am blowing that out this year (in sales and having a great year), but who knows what next year holds - I could make half that. We have 3 kids all 10 years old and under. I know I'm on the hook for some serious alimony and child support payments and that's where I have questions.
Using various child support calculators and the one in Ohio law it looks like I should be paying anywhere from $1900 to $2200 a month, and I am planning to offer her $1500-$2000 in alimony for 3 years. When we file the separation will I have to notify my employer and have them take these out of my pay, or can I just send a check directly to her? Or, better yet (for me), is there any way to do these "under the table", as in, in the Separation Agreement state there is no alimony or child support, but I will still pay her those amounts anyway...? My fear here is twofold, I don't want my work to know what is going on, and if my pay suddenly drops and I can't afford to pay those amounts next year I don't want to be in a lot of trouble with the state. She understands the situation and (I think) would agree to this arrangement if there was a way to do it.
One other question, once this files can I still keep her on my health insurance or will she have to get her own?
Thanks in advance.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My wife and I have been informally separated for almost a full year now. We had another house which I was living in but sold it two months ago. I've been living on our property in a trailer since then, hence the screen name. Everything is still shared between us - we have equal access to bank accounts, etc., and while we have talked about filing we never do anything about it. I am finally ready to make this a legal separation.
We are both fairly cheap people, and things are amicable between us, and I think we will try to do most of this on our own with the exception of hiring a lawyer at the end to review the docs before filing. She saw a lawyer earlier this year and has some idea of what she can get. I have a better idea and know that she can totally screw me if this goes to divorce. I would like to come up with a very fair offer for her, one that she will accept without making her question if I am trying to get the best of her.
We are both 35 and been married 14 years now. She hadn't worked in over 10 years but just got a job last month making $10/hr, 20 hrs a week. I made $145k last year and am blowing that out this year (in sales and having a great year), but who knows what next year holds - I could make half that. We have 3 kids all 10 years old and under. I know I'm on the hook for some serious alimony and child support payments and that's where I have questions.
Using various child support calculators and the one in Ohio law it looks like I should be paying anywhere from $1900 to $2200 a month, and I am planning to offer her $1500-$2000 in alimony for 3 years. When we file the separation will I have to notify my employer and have them take these out of my pay, or can I just send a check directly to her? Or, better yet (for me), is there any way to do these "under the table", as in, in the Separation Agreement state there is no alimony or child support, but I will still pay her those amounts anyway...? My fear here is twofold, I don't want my work to know what is going on, and if my pay suddenly drops and I can't afford to pay those amounts next year I don't want to be in a lot of trouble with the state. She understands the situation and (I think) would agree to this arrangement if there was a way to do it.
One other question, once this files can I still keep her on my health insurance or will she have to get her own?
Thanks in advance.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?