that's true
I do understand what you are talking about. There is also the tax refund to consider. They more than likely get earned income credit, which could be thousands of dollars and they get to claim the child and do not have to claim the child support they receive as income. I feel that we should get to claim the child at least every other year since the child support we give provides, I feel, half of the expense monthly, since they do not have to pay rent or bills, since that is part of what the "child support" is supposed to be for, correct?
I really do understand the situation from both sides because my parents are divorced and I got to see the other side of the coin when my mother was needing child support from my dad. It is, however, difficult to be in our situation because there are many more details that would have to be explained in order for you to understand our situation. I know that in the eyes of the law the custodial parent usually benefits when it comes to these kinds of situations. I say that because we are on the other end. I'm sure there is someone out there that might disagree, but they may have never been in this situation. The way I look at it, we try to do everything possible to benefit the children, but not just the child that is involved in this suit. The other children are equally important and it seems like they always get considered last.
That is the difficult part about this. A true parent will sacrifice what is needed for the child and that is what we are trying to do. I have always tried make this about doing what is best for the children. It is very hard to do when the other parent is so bitter that she can't see that. It is about her feelings and not the kids.
All I was really trying to determine was if the double coverage with state insurance and private was illegal because someone told me it was. It was not an attorney, though. We are just trying to do what is right and trying not to abuse the system. I did not want to be part of using state benefits for my husband's daughter if it was illegal. I feel that is for people who really need it-not for people who drive 40,000 vehicles and a very comfortable life.