What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? tn, but my stepdaughter lives in al, her mom went to jail last aug, which her maternal grandma, got her and her sister, she notified my husband(him and the child's mom were never married) about the whole thing, but let on like she had no type of custody, but the mom signed a paper for her to act for medical and school activity purposes, the dept of human resources is involved in the whole thing, but never calls my husband. he has no official visitation set up, we really try for every other wk end and all, sometimes they stick to it, etc. anyway, the mom is really strung out,etc, the grandma has really helped see after my step daughter and her sister all their lives.
the grandma gives us all these details, my husband offers for her to come live with us, etc and as long as he doesn't push it or act on it , she agrees, but like he talked with the caseworker, she said as long as the grandma didn't mind, she could stay with us until the mom was out or whatever, then the grandma said she was not forcing her to do nothing. he has called the dhs many many times, over 2 yrs, we have not been able to afford a lawyer, and he doesn't really want to take her from her mom or sister or the grandma, but things just aren't getting better.
the whole bunch is warped, they've got the child on 6 different meds and she's only 10 yrs old. she goes to all this counseling, if she goes to school with the slightest bruise on her, the dhs gets involved, it's all real dramatic. What i want to know is, should my husband -the child's father- be notified if the mom gets picked up or whatever the case is, where the kids have to be taken out of the home. the dhs never has once called him.
I thought grandparents don't even have rights, but parents do. I am so lost. I mean the mother went to rehab a month or 2 after she got put in jail, and came home in march, and of course she's back messed up, the kids are with the grandma, but really they were never supposed to be out of the grandma's care. also, if the mom is in jail or the dhs don't let her have them, do we have to have a lawyer to get the child ? I mean she's his daughter, why should he not be the one she comes to stay with?
the grandma gives us all these details, my husband offers for her to come live with us, etc and as long as he doesn't push it or act on it , she agrees, but like he talked with the caseworker, she said as long as the grandma didn't mind, she could stay with us until the mom was out or whatever, then the grandma said she was not forcing her to do nothing. he has called the dhs many many times, over 2 yrs, we have not been able to afford a lawyer, and he doesn't really want to take her from her mom or sister or the grandma, but things just aren't getting better.
the whole bunch is warped, they've got the child on 6 different meds and she's only 10 yrs old. she goes to all this counseling, if she goes to school with the slightest bruise on her, the dhs gets involved, it's all real dramatic. What i want to know is, should my husband -the child's father- be notified if the mom gets picked up or whatever the case is, where the kids have to be taken out of the home. the dhs never has once called him.
I thought grandparents don't even have rights, but parents do. I am so lost. I mean the mother went to rehab a month or 2 after she got put in jail, and came home in march, and of course she's back messed up, the kids are with the grandma, but really they were never supposed to be out of the grandma's care. also, if the mom is in jail or the dhs don't let her have them, do we have to have a lawyer to get the child ? I mean she's his daughter, why should he not be the one she comes to stay with?
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