What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CO
Folks I need some advice on approaching Dad about DD's school enrollment next year.
Some history, Dad and I have joint physical and legal custody of our 5 yr old DD and we do a 50-50 week on, week off schedule. Currently DD is starting pvt kindergarten in the same preschool she has been as she misses school district A's deadline for public kindergarten by 7 days (Oct 1 is the deadline to turn 5, she turns 5 on Oct 7th). Dad and I agreed that she would do one year of pvt kindergarten in this school.
I live in school district A, Dad lives in school district B, Dad had planned to move to school district A back in Feb 2008, but did not (and to quote because he had filed a motion to get attny fees paid and that has not happened). I dont know what Dad's moving plans, if any, are.
I have been trying to sell my house and move from sub district 1 in school district A to sub district 5 in school district A. The reason being the schools in sub district 1 rate very poorly in terms of academic performance and my neighborhood has gone to the dogs. But any move I make will be within the same city (ie Aurora, CO). My house has not sold yet and I will most likely rent it out and move before Aug 2009, when DD has to enroll in public school.
There are 2 schools that rate very well (all public) in sub district 5 in school district A, that would be range from 9, currently where Dad lives, they are a 11 and 14 miles away respectively. If Dad moves to the area he intended to, they are 6 and 2 miles away, of course I cannot assume anything about Dad moving.
In addition, one can request “2 schools of choice” for a school that is not in the sub district you live in (deadline is Nov 15th).
Our CO states that Dad and I have to consult jointly about where DD is going to go to school, which is I want to accomplish.
Given how high conflict we have become, I want to make sure that I am doing things correctly. Here is how I would like to proceed:
1. Send Dad an email around mid Sept telling him that I would like to start discussions about DD’s school next year, remind him that I am trying to move (he knows that) and will be moving most likely by the end of Q1 2009. The move will be within Aurora, CO (so not across state, 60 miles etc away, we have no clause in our CO that talks about moving within state or placing any geographic restrictions). Also in that email, ask Dad what his plans are moving, if any so that we can have an informed discussions about schools?
2. Second, after dad’s response, send another email telling him which schools I am considering, why I am considering them and that I would like he and I to meet with their principals to “interview” the schools for ourselves. Could he and I go together to the schools to interview them? Also tell Dad about the “schools of choice” option and that I would like to apply for these two schools in Nov 2008 (there is no guarantee she will be accepted since it is based on size), and ask Dad if he is ok with that, since if she is accepted, I may be able to avoid a move till the market is better (not applying does NOT mean enrolling her).
My goal is simply joint decision making, so far, Dad’s sore spots have been overnights and CS, so I am hoping this will not turn into a fight, but having said that, he is rabid now and may say “no” to anything I request. So I want to make sure that I am including him in every step of this process and if there is a “fight”, we have time to settle it in Court before Aug 2009.
Insights please?
Folks I need some advice on approaching Dad about DD's school enrollment next year.
Some history, Dad and I have joint physical and legal custody of our 5 yr old DD and we do a 50-50 week on, week off schedule. Currently DD is starting pvt kindergarten in the same preschool she has been as she misses school district A's deadline for public kindergarten by 7 days (Oct 1 is the deadline to turn 5, she turns 5 on Oct 7th). Dad and I agreed that she would do one year of pvt kindergarten in this school.
I live in school district A, Dad lives in school district B, Dad had planned to move to school district A back in Feb 2008, but did not (and to quote because he had filed a motion to get attny fees paid and that has not happened). I dont know what Dad's moving plans, if any, are.
I have been trying to sell my house and move from sub district 1 in school district A to sub district 5 in school district A. The reason being the schools in sub district 1 rate very poorly in terms of academic performance and my neighborhood has gone to the dogs. But any move I make will be within the same city (ie Aurora, CO). My house has not sold yet and I will most likely rent it out and move before Aug 2009, when DD has to enroll in public school.
There are 2 schools that rate very well (all public) in sub district 5 in school district A, that would be range from 9, currently where Dad lives, they are a 11 and 14 miles away respectively. If Dad moves to the area he intended to, they are 6 and 2 miles away, of course I cannot assume anything about Dad moving.
In addition, one can request “2 schools of choice” for a school that is not in the sub district you live in (deadline is Nov 15th).
Our CO states that Dad and I have to consult jointly about where DD is going to go to school, which is I want to accomplish.
Given how high conflict we have become, I want to make sure that I am doing things correctly. Here is how I would like to proceed:
1. Send Dad an email around mid Sept telling him that I would like to start discussions about DD’s school next year, remind him that I am trying to move (he knows that) and will be moving most likely by the end of Q1 2009. The move will be within Aurora, CO (so not across state, 60 miles etc away, we have no clause in our CO that talks about moving within state or placing any geographic restrictions). Also in that email, ask Dad what his plans are moving, if any so that we can have an informed discussions about schools?
2. Second, after dad’s response, send another email telling him which schools I am considering, why I am considering them and that I would like he and I to meet with their principals to “interview” the schools for ourselves. Could he and I go together to the schools to interview them? Also tell Dad about the “schools of choice” option and that I would like to apply for these two schools in Nov 2008 (there is no guarantee she will be accepted since it is based on size), and ask Dad if he is ok with that, since if she is accepted, I may be able to avoid a move till the market is better (not applying does NOT mean enrolling her).
My goal is simply joint decision making, so far, Dad’s sore spots have been overnights and CS, so I am hoping this will not turn into a fight, but having said that, he is rabid now and may say “no” to anything I request. So I want to make sure that I am including him in every step of this process and if there is a “fight”, we have time to settle it in Court before Aug 2009.
Insights please?