I am on the childs side. I am a mom and a step-mom. Yes one of those insane souls who married a man with kids from a prior marriage.(but then so did he!)
I did my best before that happy day to assure that he and I are both perfectly capable of supporting ourselves without the other, but my husband not only pays his support, I am also able to stay home with our child until she is in school full time, then I will return to my career. I think life would be a lot easier for people, (women in particular) if they took care of thier financial security BEFORE they marry, divorced person or not.
Is it tough? yeah, sometimes, but I just roll with it. No big thing, my marriage and child are bigger than anything the ex can 'attempt'. SHE is past, thier kids present, and my husband always does what is right for them(kids). The sad part is, he does have no say ultimately in the decisions made for them, and unless he was to wage all out war, there is nothing we can do right now as we watch his oldest fail in school. (she won't do what it takes to get him to study) It is scary to think about his future, and know we may still end up "holding the bag" even though she is the "all powerful" CP she made the real decisions to ruin his future.(if you have to pay the price, at least let you be the one who did the damage KWIM?)
I was raised by a "real" single mom-no support or visitation, and I was one for a while, and I didnt get close to what my husbands ex receives in comparison (she married better than me the first time LOL) So I can relate to being a CP also, but it makes it hard for me to sympathize when she complains about how hard it is to my husband, when I know what it is "really" like.
So before I "bash" I look at each question o a case by case basis, I am an equal oppurtunity basher!