Bottom line - an internet forum isn't going to help you. In fact, you would be best served by avoiding the internet, since you seem to be drawn towards the hogwash theories being thrown around. Speak to an attorney who can tell you how it really is.
Family law attorneys are part of the problem... Apparently most of you denying this information right now are lawyers...they're paid that incentive, telling you this information will cut the money going into their pockets...
42 U.S. Code § 658a - Incentive payments to States
(a)In general
In addition to any other payment under this part, the Secretary shall, subject to subsection (f), make an incentive payment to each State for each fiscal year in an amount determined under subsection (b).
(b)Amount of incentive payment
(1)In general
The incentive payment for a State for a fiscal year is equal to the incentive payment pool for the fiscal year, multiplied by the State incentive payment share for the fiscal year.
(2)Incentive payment pool
(A)In general
In paragraph (1), the term “incentive payment pool” means—
(i)$422,000,000 for fiscal year 2000;
(ii)$429,000,000 for fiscal year 2001;
(iii)$450,000,000 for fiscal year 2002;
(iv)$461,000,000 for fiscal year 2003;
(v)$454,000,000 for fiscal year 2004;
(vi)$446,000,000 for fiscal year 2005;
(vii)$458,000,000 for fiscal year 2006;
(viii)$471,000,000 for fiscal year 2007;
(ix)$483,000,000 for fiscal year 2008;