IMHO, this is where a MAN'S CHOICE comes in to play
djohnson said:
momma tiger i would take it as a compliment considering. I am with you all the way. How old are these children that its ok to mess with their heads like that. I think you have done the worst things (plural) a mother could do. They are obviously better off with non bio dad. Just to give everyone hope. I have a friend that is married to a man that was in desert storm (he was married to someone else then). She had a child from a previous relationship and when he got back after being gone 8 months she was 3 months pregnant. He stayed with her and put his name on the birth certificate and a year later when he filed for divorce, he took custody of both children because they didn't want to split them up. He had enough evidence that she was a skank (like poster, to quote IAAL) that she couldn't win. Eventually he remarried and bio mom signed over rights that my friend is now the legal mother and raising them. I hope posters kids are that lucky.
In this case, the man who thought he was the father should have the choice: full custody, control and the right to collect support from bio-mom, or no custody, no control, no support, no contact with kids. Bio-mom, IMHO, lost her choices, and legal father and bio-father should have all the rights here! Bio-mom's rights, in this case anyway, should be permanently terminated, allowing the legal father the right to decide what is now best for these poor kids. Like I said, hopefully he and bio-dad can work together. The kids will never miss this skank.