Jenni_Pooh2
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What is the name of your state? California
My daughter’s bio-father has been in and out of her life for 12 years. The last time he saw her was almost 4 years ago. He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse as well as physical abuse, and has been in jail multiple times for it. He doesn't pay any child support and the DA's office is unable to find him to collect it.
My husband would like to adopt her. We asked the bio-father 3 years ago if he would sign over parental rights. He said no and then made a $30 child support payment which made us enable to file it under abandonment. He then called and asked if he could have dinner with our daughter to explain (again) that he is off drugs and ready to be a dad. I told him that I would tell her what he was asking and he was going to call me back the next day. My daughter has never been alone with him and was uncomfortable with the idea. She doesn’t acknowledge him as her dad any longer and had no desire to listen to his “explanations” again. Needless to say, he never called back to see if she was even willing to listen.
Last October my husband was taken to a mental health facility for approx. 10 days on a 5150 and 5250 hold. He had overdosed on medication. Since then he has been determined unable to work and is on SSI. This is the result of a birth defect called Klinefelter Syndrome. He was born with an extra chromosome and this causes severe depression among other things. He is under the care of a psychologist and getting better. Very few people know about the mental health facility and of course we don't want this to be an obstacle to his adopting my daughter.
Does anyone have any insight as if we would have to disclose this information? I would like to know before we start the process and have it back fire on us.
My daughter’s bio-father has been in and out of her life for 12 years. The last time he saw her was almost 4 years ago. He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse as well as physical abuse, and has been in jail multiple times for it. He doesn't pay any child support and the DA's office is unable to find him to collect it.
My husband would like to adopt her. We asked the bio-father 3 years ago if he would sign over parental rights. He said no and then made a $30 child support payment which made us enable to file it under abandonment. He then called and asked if he could have dinner with our daughter to explain (again) that he is off drugs and ready to be a dad. I told him that I would tell her what he was asking and he was going to call me back the next day. My daughter has never been alone with him and was uncomfortable with the idea. She doesn’t acknowledge him as her dad any longer and had no desire to listen to his “explanations” again. Needless to say, he never called back to see if she was even willing to listen.
Last October my husband was taken to a mental health facility for approx. 10 days on a 5150 and 5250 hold. He had overdosed on medication. Since then he has been determined unable to work and is on SSI. This is the result of a birth defect called Klinefelter Syndrome. He was born with an extra chromosome and this causes severe depression among other things. He is under the care of a psychologist and getting better. Very few people know about the mental health facility and of course we don't want this to be an obstacle to his adopting my daughter.
Does anyone have any insight as if we would have to disclose this information? I would like to know before we start the process and have it back fire on us.