bigspoon11
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CO
Alright, there's a lot of history in this and I will try to be brief, but it's complicated (at least to me).
Girlfriend and I were together for 4 years. She broke up with me two months ago. Long story there... pretty bummed about it. But anyways, over the course of our relationship, she helped me out financially many times. I never asked for her help. She always offered and I would decline and she would insist. It wasn't so much of an issue in our relationship about repayment because whenever I had money, I would give her some of it. For example, say I owed her $5000. I'd pay her back $2000. Then she'd help out with something else, let's say $500. Then I'd pay $1000. Then the same thing would happen, etc. One time, about this time last year, I gave her a total of $4000 at once and got the "balance" if you will down to $1000 or $1500 I think. It was going well. Then she helped me out with some more stuff (moving, etc) all on her own... she wanted me to get my own apartment and she was semi doing it with me, although not officially on the lease or anything. OK, long story.
Obviously, after the breakup, money became her primary issue and the only thing she would talk to me about. She blocked my number from even being able to call her. I tried calling from other numbers, and she called the police on me. They told me I needed to leave her alone or else she would press charges or something, etc. I backed off immediately. I don't want any trouble.
We had a verbal agreement of sorts to have me pay her $50 every two weeks when I got paid kinda. It was sort of ambiguous because when I tried to contact her about details i.e. what if I needed to reduce the amount or was unable to pay in full one week or something, that's when she called the cops on me. And so for the last three weeks I have not contact her OR sent her any money. When we first broke up, I had owed her about $3500. I paid her almost $700 since then. But when she called the cops, I backed off.
I have been struggling financially and I don't have the means to pay her. And I can't communicate this with her for fear of police involvement.
So last night, she sends me this email, out of the blue... after no contact from her for months almost... and nothing to her from me since she called the cops!
I don't want to respond to her for fear of the police telling me to leave her alone, PERIOD no ifs ands or buts. And I don't want to try reasoning with her because I know her and she's not going to listen to anything I have to say. And plus, since she's threatening this kind of stuff, I don't want to give her any possible ammo and I want to tread lightly.
Alright, there's a lot of history in this and I will try to be brief, but it's complicated (at least to me).
Girlfriend and I were together for 4 years. She broke up with me two months ago. Long story there... pretty bummed about it. But anyways, over the course of our relationship, she helped me out financially many times. I never asked for her help. She always offered and I would decline and she would insist. It wasn't so much of an issue in our relationship about repayment because whenever I had money, I would give her some of it. For example, say I owed her $5000. I'd pay her back $2000. Then she'd help out with something else, let's say $500. Then I'd pay $1000. Then the same thing would happen, etc. One time, about this time last year, I gave her a total of $4000 at once and got the "balance" if you will down to $1000 or $1500 I think. It was going well. Then she helped me out with some more stuff (moving, etc) all on her own... she wanted me to get my own apartment and she was semi doing it with me, although not officially on the lease or anything. OK, long story.
Obviously, after the breakup, money became her primary issue and the only thing she would talk to me about. She blocked my number from even being able to call her. I tried calling from other numbers, and she called the police on me. They told me I needed to leave her alone or else she would press charges or something, etc. I backed off immediately. I don't want any trouble.
We had a verbal agreement of sorts to have me pay her $50 every two weeks when I got paid kinda. It was sort of ambiguous because when I tried to contact her about details i.e. what if I needed to reduce the amount or was unable to pay in full one week or something, that's when she called the cops on me. And so for the last three weeks I have not contact her OR sent her any money. When we first broke up, I had owed her about $3500. I paid her almost $700 since then. But when she called the cops, I backed off.
I have been struggling financially and I don't have the means to pay her. And I can't communicate this with her for fear of police involvement.
So last night, she sends me this email, out of the blue... after no contact from her for months almost... and nothing to her from me since she called the cops!
We agreed on a payment plan of $50 every two weeks until the bill is paid off. It has been three weeks since you've last paid me and I know that the new semester is starting up so you are getting a loan and taxes are too so you should be getting money. If you do not pay me back I will have to take you to court. It's not fair that I loaned you money to help you out and now that I need my money back you don't pay it. I'm sick of begging for my money. If you reply back talking about anything else besides the money that you owe me I will not hesitate to put a restraining order on you i have told you many times before that I just want my money and that is it. I wouldn't take this as all "talk" either because I have the papers to file everything if I need to do so.
I don't want to respond to her for fear of the police telling me to leave her alone, PERIOD no ifs ands or buts. And I don't want to try reasoning with her because I know her and she's not going to listen to anything I have to say. And plus, since she's threatening this kind of stuff, I don't want to give her any possible ammo and I want to tread lightly.