Wow, I stirred the pot a little, huh?
It was amusing reading the responses to my post, because most everyone assumed they knew what my situation was. My ex-wife and I share an apartment with our kids as platonic roommates. We are not exactly friends, but for the most part it works. We do it for financial reasons. She's in school, and I can't afford a place large enough for me and my kids on my own, even though I have 2 jobs. I pay for half my kids' living expenses before a penny of child support is spent for the month. I buy weekly groceries, she does not. I mostly make meals at home, she takes them out for fast food most nights. One-third of my post-taxed salary goes to child support. That has had a major impact on my life. The least I'm entitled to is an accounting of how that money, for which I work very hard to earn, is spent on MY children. It's THEIR money, not my ex's. She is simply the custodian of it. Can somebodt reasonably explain why the nature of child support expenditure should be shrouded in mystery?