Things have changed just a bit...I was going to leave b/c the town we live in is small and he has to live in the district he works in so I figured I would leave, then I thought no the rent is cheap and my daughter lives with me so we will stay here.. I have a feeling the judge will have us leave b/c it is true he needs to live in this small area and since I wont have a vehicle I should probably live closer to were I can find job when that time comes and if it comes? I m on temp disibility but since this has drug on for 4 years they stopped paying b/c they say I have received the amount they feel I should have gotten for this injury? I do still go to my Dr's every month and they pay for it.. As for the truck he says he will sale it and get the 2 thousand equity in it and buy me a used car with my share, I am not sure if my name is even on the registration? I don't think it is?. If I try to take this house he has said he will charge me with hitting him and beat me to it? B/c when I use to get hit, kicked, choked etc...I finally grabbed a pan and went after him in self defence so my reaction is to be on the defensive, he hasn't hurt me like that in some time but he does do the things as discribed earlier takes my wallet, purse and keys,... I am afraid he will turn around and charge me with hitting him now?
This is what he wants and I'm tempted to do it? We have already split furniture etc... he wants our daughter but will go with her decition and she wants to live with me which he put a major guilt trip on her last night saying he cant afford it b/c he has bills!! So she asks me not to take this house and lets move? Of course a 17 yr old isn't going to make those types of desitions for me but she loves him and felt sorry,, I tried to expalain bancruptcy to her but he says it is something he just wont do and he will own a home some day? Anyway he says he can't afford to pay the 200.00 car payment monthly for me to keep it, so he has to sell the truck, Keep the house, keep the retiremnet and keep the bills? I do believe the retiremnet and bills are matched pretty good dollar for dollar but need to ck further.
I don't even care if I have to move any more b/c I wont have a car anyway from this remote town. So with all this said should I go to the affilliators office , give him what is said as in our list to seperate items, bill greement and have something wrote up tht he will have to give up half if he doen't pay his bills, Tell him I would like the vehicle < thats one thing I do need... He said he would pay for health coverge for me and my daughter. Then he said have them come up with the disomasters results for child support and spousal. What do you think? Should I make an appt or go down and request what we want now? Since I cannot find one lawer to take me without retainer? Please can anyone answer this for me? When you put down your debts and they do the disomaster do they consider credit card debt as necessity? s in taking awy from spousal support so he can pay those? I would think it would be yes for rent , car , gas and lights but credit cards? He says absolutely and I wont accept the offer of him taking the bils on for retiremnet then... Can anyone please answer that one? He has also said if he ends up working for nothing and paying me to much he will quit his job.. but I know he wont..... It is his life... I have no money and he is now trying to turn my kids against me thinking I m trying to get everything? Im only trying to work something out so I can be free for once in my life..... Thank you and I hope I mde some sence here?