schmoo2691
Junior Member
New York/Colorado (sorry but it's an interstate issue)
OK. My husband's ex-wife has been obsessed with him ever since the divorce six years ago. She is 5'2", college-educated, presents herself quite well on the surface. Problem arises from her being bat-crap crazy in a deep way.
Complete disclosure: Husband was convicted of a felony in 1974, paid his years, has never had a problem since. It seems Ms. Wonderful, whose daddy worked in corrections, married him partially FOR that aura. Whatever, by the time she tried to talk him into killing her prior ex and realized he was not either a fiend or a toy, she was already pregnant with their oldest, now 17.
Ever since the divorce began, every professional she has encountered (GALs,
therapists, child services folks) has been treated to her story of a Nightmare Marriage, when in actuality SHE was physically and otherwise abusive. She was never able to carry it all the way through in the courtroom or provide any actual facts. Despite the record and en eleventh grade education, my husband won sole custody in three states. The last proceedings, in Denver, ended with her parental rights suspended.
They came to NY, we fell in love, and she had no idea where they were- until my husband was hospitalized for a manic episode (only one in a 52-year life) and CPS contacted her. She came out here and got supervised visits with the younger boy (14), alienated him, put some lies in his mouth about us, got temporary custody, and fled (against NY family court orders) back to Denver.
The court suggested my husband fly out there on his own and with the aid of law enforcement take the boy back by force. Seemed like a lousy idea, child development wise. So we are letting it unfold- my husband now has "custody" again and the school records are legally being kept here.
So now she is going to restraining order court in Denver, and we have just been served with two (one for the boy and one for her) in rapid succession, alleging every possible sin- rape, molestation, physical abuse, verbal abuse, daily threats of suicide- and alleging repeated threatening calls and MySpace messages. We are not in a financial position for him to fly out to Denver and defend himself.
Much of this stuff was long ago disproved in Denver court, and it becomes obvious that her goal all these years has been to see him back in prison for the crime of leaving her. On the RO for her, she accused him of having weapons in the house and acting like he's off his meds. She has not spoken with him, despite desperate efforts, outside of a courtroom in 6 years.
I realize that allegations in a petition for an RO are neither true not untrue and therefore not actionable. But isn't there something about deliberate malice?
We are hoping that if we peacefully pursue the case that is open in the NY family court, ultimately she'll have to relinquish the boy. But meanwhile, does she really get to just say this stuff? It's disgusting and provably false.
Thanks for reading this rant. All input appreciated.
OK. My husband's ex-wife has been obsessed with him ever since the divorce six years ago. She is 5'2", college-educated, presents herself quite well on the surface. Problem arises from her being bat-crap crazy in a deep way.
Complete disclosure: Husband was convicted of a felony in 1974, paid his years, has never had a problem since. It seems Ms. Wonderful, whose daddy worked in corrections, married him partially FOR that aura. Whatever, by the time she tried to talk him into killing her prior ex and realized he was not either a fiend or a toy, she was already pregnant with their oldest, now 17.
Ever since the divorce began, every professional she has encountered (GALs,
therapists, child services folks) has been treated to her story of a Nightmare Marriage, when in actuality SHE was physically and otherwise abusive. She was never able to carry it all the way through in the courtroom or provide any actual facts. Despite the record and en eleventh grade education, my husband won sole custody in three states. The last proceedings, in Denver, ended with her parental rights suspended.
They came to NY, we fell in love, and she had no idea where they were- until my husband was hospitalized for a manic episode (only one in a 52-year life) and CPS contacted her. She came out here and got supervised visits with the younger boy (14), alienated him, put some lies in his mouth about us, got temporary custody, and fled (against NY family court orders) back to Denver.
The court suggested my husband fly out there on his own and with the aid of law enforcement take the boy back by force. Seemed like a lousy idea, child development wise. So we are letting it unfold- my husband now has "custody" again and the school records are legally being kept here.
So now she is going to restraining order court in Denver, and we have just been served with two (one for the boy and one for her) in rapid succession, alleging every possible sin- rape, molestation, physical abuse, verbal abuse, daily threats of suicide- and alleging repeated threatening calls and MySpace messages. We are not in a financial position for him to fly out to Denver and defend himself.
Much of this stuff was long ago disproved in Denver court, and it becomes obvious that her goal all these years has been to see him back in prison for the crime of leaving her. On the RO for her, she accused him of having weapons in the house and acting like he's off his meds. She has not spoken with him, despite desperate efforts, outside of a courtroom in 6 years.
I realize that allegations in a petition for an RO are neither true not untrue and therefore not actionable. But isn't there something about deliberate malice?
We are hoping that if we peacefully pursue the case that is open in the NY family court, ultimately she'll have to relinquish the boy. But meanwhile, does she really get to just say this stuff? It's disgusting and provably false.
Thanks for reading this rant. All input appreciated.
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