What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
I have 2 daughters now aged 11 & 9. I have full physical and legal custody with their father having EOWE, alternate holidays, and 14 days of summer vacation. He lives about 2 hours away from us at this time.
My issue now is with cell phone problems. Since school has let out for the summer, I have been allowing my 11 1/2 year old daughter to stay home alone during the day , from about 8-4 with my husband going home for lunch as well to check on her. I take the 9 yo and their 3 yo step sister to the babysitter. Our home is just 3 blocks from my parents home so my oldest is close to help if she needs it.
To also help with safety I got her a cell phone. I added their dad's number as well as the parental grandparents. He knew they were getting the phone and started calling them the same night he dropped them off. During the first week he averaged 6 calls a day not counting the text messages as well. The seecond week was more of the same. He is running up the minutes used so fast that their alloted minutes was used in 2 weeks time. I have since blocked his number as well as the grandparents as he switched to using their phone.
He can still contact them at any time using my number as he has been able to since our divorce 8 years ago. He is now threatening me with lawsuits because I refuse to allow him access to the girls' phone. I tried to explain to explain to him he was using all of their minutes, that he was effectively ruining the main reason I got them the phone in the first place because their minutes are now used up for the month, and to limit calls to one call a day unless there is an emergancy and we wouldn't have any problems. He again told me I was trying to restrict his access to the girls. I then asked him to help pay for more minutes on the phone plan if he was going to be using so many minutes and he refused saying he paid child support to use it for that.
At this point I believe he will be filing another issue with the courts (he sues me an average 6-8 times a year for various things, mostly trying to build a case to change custody). Can I get in trouble for blocking his number on the girls' phone when he has access to them from mine? Another option I guess would be to just get rid of the phone, but I prefer my daughter have a way to get help quickly if she would need it.
Thank you for your help
I have 2 daughters now aged 11 & 9. I have full physical and legal custody with their father having EOWE, alternate holidays, and 14 days of summer vacation. He lives about 2 hours away from us at this time.
My issue now is with cell phone problems. Since school has let out for the summer, I have been allowing my 11 1/2 year old daughter to stay home alone during the day , from about 8-4 with my husband going home for lunch as well to check on her. I take the 9 yo and their 3 yo step sister to the babysitter. Our home is just 3 blocks from my parents home so my oldest is close to help if she needs it.
To also help with safety I got her a cell phone. I added their dad's number as well as the parental grandparents. He knew they were getting the phone and started calling them the same night he dropped them off. During the first week he averaged 6 calls a day not counting the text messages as well. The seecond week was more of the same. He is running up the minutes used so fast that their alloted minutes was used in 2 weeks time. I have since blocked his number as well as the grandparents as he switched to using their phone.
He can still contact them at any time using my number as he has been able to since our divorce 8 years ago. He is now threatening me with lawsuits because I refuse to allow him access to the girls' phone. I tried to explain to explain to him he was using all of their minutes, that he was effectively ruining the main reason I got them the phone in the first place because their minutes are now used up for the month, and to limit calls to one call a day unless there is an emergancy and we wouldn't have any problems. He again told me I was trying to restrict his access to the girls. I then asked him to help pay for more minutes on the phone plan if he was going to be using so many minutes and he refused saying he paid child support to use it for that.
At this point I believe he will be filing another issue with the courts (he sues me an average 6-8 times a year for various things, mostly trying to build a case to change custody). Can I get in trouble for blocking his number on the girls' phone when he has access to them from mine? Another option I guess would be to just get rid of the phone, but I prefer my daughter have a way to get help quickly if she would need it.
Thank you for your help