sharms2010
Junior Member
Minnesota
My husband, a stay at home dad due to his youngest having autism, recently filed for physical custody of his oldest son and won. I have a good job and for the most part can afford to cover the basic needs of all of us. When he and his ex-wife divorced he took custody of their youngest and allowed her to keep custody of the oldest due to feeling uprooting his oldest would not be in his best interest. There was no child-support because they each had one child. However, his oldest started failing school and getting in trouble so he went for custody. His ex-wife agreed because she was already overwhelmed from having a third child with another on the way and their son wanted to move in with us.
When they went to the court to finalize the agreement my husband felt bad for her and agreed to her request that child support be reserved. In the papers it says it was reserved because she was expecting another child and my husband believes that the needs of his sons could be met. Part of the agreement was that she would pay half of (but not limited to) clothing, school supplies and school lunches.
Due to complications she lost the baby shortly after birth. I hate for this to sound heartless, but since she lost the baby can we have the child support revisited? She has a decent job and no longer has the financial responsibilities of their oldest so actually has less financial responsibility than before. At this point, she has only paid $70 of the $280 we've spent for just school clothes and supplies and says she can't afford to pay the rest. This is the very least of the expenses she was supposed to pay and is only for the oldest. Would we have to go back to court to have the support revisited or can we go through the county/state?
I hate for this to sound petty, but with a teen eating machine and both boys growing out of clothes faster than we can shop, our funds are dwindling quickly and I am constantly worried about unforeseen expenses that could pop up. God forbid I lose my job.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My husband, a stay at home dad due to his youngest having autism, recently filed for physical custody of his oldest son and won. I have a good job and for the most part can afford to cover the basic needs of all of us. When he and his ex-wife divorced he took custody of their youngest and allowed her to keep custody of the oldest due to feeling uprooting his oldest would not be in his best interest. There was no child-support because they each had one child. However, his oldest started failing school and getting in trouble so he went for custody. His ex-wife agreed because she was already overwhelmed from having a third child with another on the way and their son wanted to move in with us.
When they went to the court to finalize the agreement my husband felt bad for her and agreed to her request that child support be reserved. In the papers it says it was reserved because she was expecting another child and my husband believes that the needs of his sons could be met. Part of the agreement was that she would pay half of (but not limited to) clothing, school supplies and school lunches.
Due to complications she lost the baby shortly after birth. I hate for this to sound heartless, but since she lost the baby can we have the child support revisited? She has a decent job and no longer has the financial responsibilities of their oldest so actually has less financial responsibility than before. At this point, she has only paid $70 of the $280 we've spent for just school clothes and supplies and says she can't afford to pay the rest. This is the very least of the expenses she was supposed to pay and is only for the oldest. Would we have to go back to court to have the support revisited or can we go through the county/state?
I hate for this to sound petty, but with a teen eating machine and both boys growing out of clothes faster than we can shop, our funds are dwindling quickly and I am constantly worried about unforeseen expenses that could pop up. God forbid I lose my job.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?