stealth2
Under the Radar Member
The point, confused, is that not sending either child for ordered visitation is contempt. However, the only one who can start the ball rolling is you (in re your son) or him (in re your daughter if she doesn't go). As IAAL said - it's a question of who files first. Since you've not done anything wrt your son not visiting you, a judge will see your not forcing your daughter to go as a vindictive move. It's also likely s/he will consider that you may have encouraged her to not want to go. If I were in your shoes? I would get that girl on the plane, and then file agains the ex for contempt wrt the boy.
You have an order for visitation. It is your responsibility to get the child there. Until such a time as there is a modification that says she doesn't have to go. It really is as simple as that. Barring abuse (in which case you should be calling the authorities AND filing a modification), there are no "legitimate" reasons. And even in that situation - you'd be best advised to not refuse visitation unless advised to do so by an attorney.
You have an order for visitation. It is your responsibility to get the child there. Until such a time as there is a modification that says she doesn't have to go. It really is as simple as that. Barring abuse (in which case you should be calling the authorities AND filing a modification), there are no "legitimate" reasons. And even in that situation - you'd be best advised to not refuse visitation unless advised to do so by an attorney.