What is the name of your state? Massachusetts
Background: I have physical custody of my 7 yr old son, and share legal custody with my ex-husband. Except for the occasional disagreement (never in front of our son), we're doing well with adjusting visitations when schedules change, allowing extra time, sharing holidays & his b-day... it's not paradise but it's not hell either.
The dad has a new girlfriend with a new baby (not his) and a 9 yr old girl. My son told me he slept over the girlfriend's place this weekend & shared a room with the 9 yr old. I'd like to get all my facts straight before I discuss this with his father. I thought school-aged children of opposite genders weren't supposed to share bedrooms... apparently the little girl slept on the blow-up mattress & my son slept in her bed (she offered her bed to him).
I have a headache over this & would appreciate some advice on how to proceed.
As a side note: the dad has lived with his parents since the divorce & my son doesn't have his own bedroom when he is there for his weekends. He has a cot in his dad's room or they "camp-out" in the living room. I've mentioned this as unacceptable on multiple occasions to no avail. If it isn't his permanent residence, what are the laws surrounding sleeping arrangements during visitations?
Please be advised, his dad loves him. Yes, he acts more like his friend than his father. He just doesn't stop to think sometimes & I would like to handle this in the most mature & drama-free way possible. Facts are best.
Thank you in advance.
Background: I have physical custody of my 7 yr old son, and share legal custody with my ex-husband. Except for the occasional disagreement (never in front of our son), we're doing well with adjusting visitations when schedules change, allowing extra time, sharing holidays & his b-day... it's not paradise but it's not hell either.
The dad has a new girlfriend with a new baby (not his) and a 9 yr old girl. My son told me he slept over the girlfriend's place this weekend & shared a room with the 9 yr old. I'd like to get all my facts straight before I discuss this with his father. I thought school-aged children of opposite genders weren't supposed to share bedrooms... apparently the little girl slept on the blow-up mattress & my son slept in her bed (she offered her bed to him).
I have a headache over this & would appreciate some advice on how to proceed.
As a side note: the dad has lived with his parents since the divorce & my son doesn't have his own bedroom when he is there for his weekends. He has a cot in his dad's room or they "camp-out" in the living room. I've mentioned this as unacceptable on multiple occasions to no avail. If it isn't his permanent residence, what are the laws surrounding sleeping arrangements during visitations?
Please be advised, his dad loves him. Yes, he acts more like his friend than his father. He just doesn't stop to think sometimes & I would like to handle this in the most mature & drama-free way possible. Facts are best.
Thank you in advance.