What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
I am not sure if this is the right area since I could only find similar questions in the archieves. Sorry it is so long.
My daughter was born in Spring 2007. Her dad signed AOP. We were together until she was 7 months. On her Birth Certificate she was given MY last name. When she was 2 weeks old I agreed (if he came back from girls house he slept with and moved in and out with 6 times while I was pregnant - So, yes, I was being stupid) that I would have her last name changed to his. Here is where is gets confusing...
I went and paid the $50 and took the paperwork. They said it would take about 9 months. In the meantime I had to get help for baby through WIC, medicaid and currently a daycare voucher since dad has not paid any support. When I set all of this up the only birth certificate and SS card had my last name. I was required through that system to complete all paperwork this way, enroll her in daycare that way, make doctors appointments that way, etc. Everything that is associated with munchkin has my last name on it... EXCEPT our custody order. When NCP filed he put his last name as her last name and frankly it didn't even occur to me until I got the perm order in the mail.
About a month ago I got a letter in the mail from the Clerk of Courts that our request had been granted (to change her name) and that I had to come to the courthouse to pay $50 to get the order signed and a new birth certificate. Dad has not had much contact with daughter and was given a 6 month phase in period (this is after the initial phase in period of 6 months from temp where he missed 80% of visits) that will either lead to more or no visits at the end of 6 months depending on his actions (that is what the judge said, not me). In the meantime munchkin has been using my last name b/c that is all we have on birth certificate and SS card.
My question is: What is the law about last names for the munchkins? I would prefer for at least the meantime since I can not afford the name change and would like to see if dad is going to be involved to keep her name as it is. Is her name officially changed because I paid the $50 and signed the paperwork? Am I required to go pay the additional money and get the new birth certificate with his last name and get her a new social security card, change medicaid, WIC, doctor and daycare?
I have been to the clerk of courts to ask and no one seemed to know. They said I could list her as having my last name since the current birth certificate I have and SS card have her with my last name. They said the only time she will need it is when I take her to register for school but as long as I have a BC and SS card that match I will be fine.
HOWEVER, I do understand that the people working the desk at the clerk of courts are not our custody judge SO, is there any legal reason that I must complete the process (requires another $50 and more paperwork I think)? Is it already done and legally her name is already changed? And/or can I just leave it the way it is? If I leave it the way it is do I need to do anything to make the judge aware that she is using this last name since it doesn't match what is in the order? Not sure if it matters but I do have sole legal custody of munchkin.
Thanks for any and all help!
I am not sure if this is the right area since I could only find similar questions in the archieves. Sorry it is so long.
My daughter was born in Spring 2007. Her dad signed AOP. We were together until she was 7 months. On her Birth Certificate she was given MY last name. When she was 2 weeks old I agreed (if he came back from girls house he slept with and moved in and out with 6 times while I was pregnant - So, yes, I was being stupid) that I would have her last name changed to his. Here is where is gets confusing...
I went and paid the $50 and took the paperwork. They said it would take about 9 months. In the meantime I had to get help for baby through WIC, medicaid and currently a daycare voucher since dad has not paid any support. When I set all of this up the only birth certificate and SS card had my last name. I was required through that system to complete all paperwork this way, enroll her in daycare that way, make doctors appointments that way, etc. Everything that is associated with munchkin has my last name on it... EXCEPT our custody order. When NCP filed he put his last name as her last name and frankly it didn't even occur to me until I got the perm order in the mail.
About a month ago I got a letter in the mail from the Clerk of Courts that our request had been granted (to change her name) and that I had to come to the courthouse to pay $50 to get the order signed and a new birth certificate. Dad has not had much contact with daughter and was given a 6 month phase in period (this is after the initial phase in period of 6 months from temp where he missed 80% of visits) that will either lead to more or no visits at the end of 6 months depending on his actions (that is what the judge said, not me). In the meantime munchkin has been using my last name b/c that is all we have on birth certificate and SS card.
My question is: What is the law about last names for the munchkins? I would prefer for at least the meantime since I can not afford the name change and would like to see if dad is going to be involved to keep her name as it is. Is her name officially changed because I paid the $50 and signed the paperwork? Am I required to go pay the additional money and get the new birth certificate with his last name and get her a new social security card, change medicaid, WIC, doctor and daycare?
I have been to the clerk of courts to ask and no one seemed to know. They said I could list her as having my last name since the current birth certificate I have and SS card have her with my last name. They said the only time she will need it is when I take her to register for school but as long as I have a BC and SS card that match I will be fine.
HOWEVER, I do understand that the people working the desk at the clerk of courts are not our custody judge SO, is there any legal reason that I must complete the process (requires another $50 and more paperwork I think)? Is it already done and legally her name is already changed? And/or can I just leave it the way it is? If I leave it the way it is do I need to do anything to make the judge aware that she is using this last name since it doesn't match what is in the order? Not sure if it matters but I do have sole legal custody of munchkin.
Thanks for any and all help!
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