What is the name of your state? Indiana
I filed contempt charges against the mother of my child and was suppose to go to court last Friday.
From the time we split up (Dec 1998) until October of this year her mother and I had tried to compromise and do what was in everyones best interest when it came to holidays. I tried to be flexible thinking it would be best for our child. Then all of the sudden I started to get cut out more and more. So finally I said enough and told her that I intended on exercising my rights according to our paperwork.
First she started cutting me out of my Thursdays and then Thanksgiving came and I was told point blank by her and my daughter both that she would be spending Thanksgiving with mom. I told her point blank that it was my holiday and then I wanted my daughter and her response was to tell me that she had plans and would not be there.
So Thanksgiving passed and then approached Christmas. I bought a tape recorder and decided that I was not putting up with this again and if I needed it I would have proof and boy did she let it all hang out. Two separate times.
I hired an attorney and he told me to file contempt charges for Thanksgiving. So I did. Then at the end of Jan she called and said oops I claimed our daughter on me and hubby taxes. So I got rejected efiling. I turned around and filed them on paper and sent my papers with them. I got the exemption. So now i figure they will go after her.
She told me just last week that I could go ahead and file my taxes as if I had listened to her, Then she wanted to know if I claimed our daughter as I was entitled too. I said yes I did and already got my money. She said huh, maybe it doesn't matter.
Anyway she went that Saturday and hired an attorney and filed motions back at me.
It said I had violated the visitation order in refusing to allow her access to our daughter on all of the past 4th of July except 1999. In the paperwork she was to get the even years and I was to get the 4th on the odds. Then explain why did she have her in 99 and I did not pick my daughter up for summer visitation last year until the 5th so that she could spend it with her mother. So if she is stating she did not have on the 4th after 1999 and she had her last year. Isn't that perjury? You sign the papers and attest that they are true.
She also said that I had denied her Easter in the past years. How could I have denied her Easter weekend visitation when I pick my daughter up at her moms?
She said she never had her on Mothers Day. She never came and got her or asked for her.
When I asked her a couple of times if she wanted her, her response was well I always have her on fathers day so who cares.
They said I violated the order by not picking up my child after school. Would that be when her mom or stepdad picks her up and drives her home? Or would it be when she rides the bus to a relatives house of her stepdad's so that the school does not know that she lives outside of the school district she goes to?
It also states that I am further disruptive in the visitation and I take action and makes statements to erode the relationship between her mother and her.
Lets see I don't call her ******* while my daughters on the phone like she does me. I don't say to my daughter, well now I know where you get your problem from. You don't hear me saying in the background, why don't he grow up and let you grow up? Or the my favorite if he wants to play games so can I.
I don't say to my daughter (like you love them so much) making reference to her and her husband. Neither I nor my fiancee have ever put our hands on my daughter. The only thing we have ever done is make her sit and listen to what we have to say about how she is to treat people with respect. In fact she told me once she hit her mother and I said I don't ever want to hear you say you hit your mom.
Then she also says I say I am coming to get my daughter and then I do not show up. Well after Thanksgiving I told her and her mother both. I do not care if you have plans or night I am coming to get you. If your mother takes you and leaves then I will go to the police station and have it documented. I do not want to do these things but I am going to enforce my visitation time.
Plus she wants me to pay her attorney fees. As far as her conduct I have her on tape making all the statements that I stated earlier. I also have her on tape refusing me.
So do you think that I might have a chance of winning. Her attorney wants to meet with me and my attorney and her. What do you think her attorney will think when he hears the tapes?
I filed contempt charges against the mother of my child and was suppose to go to court last Friday.
From the time we split up (Dec 1998) until October of this year her mother and I had tried to compromise and do what was in everyones best interest when it came to holidays. I tried to be flexible thinking it would be best for our child. Then all of the sudden I started to get cut out more and more. So finally I said enough and told her that I intended on exercising my rights according to our paperwork.
First she started cutting me out of my Thursdays and then Thanksgiving came and I was told point blank by her and my daughter both that she would be spending Thanksgiving with mom. I told her point blank that it was my holiday and then I wanted my daughter and her response was to tell me that she had plans and would not be there.
So Thanksgiving passed and then approached Christmas. I bought a tape recorder and decided that I was not putting up with this again and if I needed it I would have proof and boy did she let it all hang out. Two separate times.
I hired an attorney and he told me to file contempt charges for Thanksgiving. So I did. Then at the end of Jan she called and said oops I claimed our daughter on me and hubby taxes. So I got rejected efiling. I turned around and filed them on paper and sent my papers with them. I got the exemption. So now i figure they will go after her.
She told me just last week that I could go ahead and file my taxes as if I had listened to her, Then she wanted to know if I claimed our daughter as I was entitled too. I said yes I did and already got my money. She said huh, maybe it doesn't matter.
Anyway she went that Saturday and hired an attorney and filed motions back at me.
It said I had violated the visitation order in refusing to allow her access to our daughter on all of the past 4th of July except 1999. In the paperwork she was to get the even years and I was to get the 4th on the odds. Then explain why did she have her in 99 and I did not pick my daughter up for summer visitation last year until the 5th so that she could spend it with her mother. So if she is stating she did not have on the 4th after 1999 and she had her last year. Isn't that perjury? You sign the papers and attest that they are true.
She also said that I had denied her Easter in the past years. How could I have denied her Easter weekend visitation when I pick my daughter up at her moms?
She said she never had her on Mothers Day. She never came and got her or asked for her.
When I asked her a couple of times if she wanted her, her response was well I always have her on fathers day so who cares.
They said I violated the order by not picking up my child after school. Would that be when her mom or stepdad picks her up and drives her home? Or would it be when she rides the bus to a relatives house of her stepdad's so that the school does not know that she lives outside of the school district she goes to?
It also states that I am further disruptive in the visitation and I take action and makes statements to erode the relationship between her mother and her.
Lets see I don't call her ******* while my daughters on the phone like she does me. I don't say to my daughter, well now I know where you get your problem from. You don't hear me saying in the background, why don't he grow up and let you grow up? Or the my favorite if he wants to play games so can I.
I don't say to my daughter (like you love them so much) making reference to her and her husband. Neither I nor my fiancee have ever put our hands on my daughter. The only thing we have ever done is make her sit and listen to what we have to say about how she is to treat people with respect. In fact she told me once she hit her mother and I said I don't ever want to hear you say you hit your mom.
Then she also says I say I am coming to get my daughter and then I do not show up. Well after Thanksgiving I told her and her mother both. I do not care if you have plans or night I am coming to get you. If your mother takes you and leaves then I will go to the police station and have it documented. I do not want to do these things but I am going to enforce my visitation time.
Plus she wants me to pay her attorney fees. As far as her conduct I have her on tape making all the statements that I stated earlier. I also have her on tape refusing me.
So do you think that I might have a chance of winning. Her attorney wants to meet with me and my attorney and her. What do you think her attorney will think when he hears the tapes?