Custody; 2 kids with different schedules

[westanza]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Person A and Person B are getting a divorce, they have one child, child2.

Person B was previously married to Person C, and they had a child, child1.

Person A has become legally and physically responible for child1, and will share custody with Person B.

Child1 is school age, Child2 is a toddler.

Is it conceivable that Child1 and Child2 will have different custody schedules with Persons A & B, (with plenty of overlap) based upon their different ages?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Person A and Person B are getting a divorce, they have one child, child2.

Person B was previously married to Person C, and they had a child, child1.

Person A has become legally and physically responible for child1, and will share custody with Person B.

Child1 is school age, Child2 is a toddler.

Is it conceivable that Child1 and Child2 will have different custody schedules with Persons A & B, (with plenty of overlap) based upon their different ages?

In other words, A&B are now the legal parents of both kids? C being out of the picture?

 

[westanza]

In other words, A&B are now the legal parents of both kids? C being out of the picture?

Yes, that is the situation.

 

[Proserpina]

Yes, that is the situation.

Perhaps you could clarify your question - for example, are you indicating that one parent wants a different schedule for each child?

If so, for what reasons?

 

[CJane]

Probably not based solely upon their ages, but it is possible that they'd have different schedules.

 

[westanza]

Perhaps you could clarify your question - for example, are you indicating that one parent wants a different schedule for each child?

If so, for what reasons?

So far, Person A and Person B have agreed upon 1 week on/1 week of for Child1. Whichever parent doesn't have Child1 for the week, will have 1-2 dinners scheduled.

For Child2, they've agreed upon 4-3-3-4.

They're not sure if a judge will sign off on it and truthfully, they feel uneasy about separating the children like that.

 

[Proserpina]

So far, Person A and Person B have agreed upon 1 week on/1 week of for Child1. Whichever parent doesn't have Child1 for the week, will have 1-2 dinners scheduled.

For Child2, they've agreed upon 4-3-3-4.

They're not sure if a judge will sign off on it and truthfully, they feel uneasy about separating the children like that.

...so why would they agree to something if they're uneasy?

I can see this causing an awful lot of confusion. Why not stick to one schedule for both kids?

 

[mistoffolees]

...so why would they agree to something if they're uneasy?

I can see this causing an awful lot of confusion. Why not stick to one schedule for both kids?

I agree. They're asking for trouble - they'll spend 1/2 their lives exchanging kids - and the kids will spend their lives in a state of confusion.

 

[stealth2]

Pick one schedule, and stick with that. It's not that complicated, really. Unless one wants to make it so.

 

[milspecgirl]

personally, I would not go for this at their ages. Maybe as they get older and their needs and schedules change it could be possible. I will also say that judges DO NOT like to separate siblings without good reason.

 

[westanza]

They have been separated for some time and have tried both schedules.

Child1, is an older school aged child, and does well on the 1 week on/1 week off schedule.

Child2 is a toddler, and does well on the 4-3-3-4 schedule.

Both kids didn't thrive on the other schedule. There were meltdowns and unusual defiance and irritability during transfer that lasted 1-2 days.

 

[Proserpina]

They have been separated for some time and have tried both schedules.

Child1, is an older school aged child, and does well on the 1 week on/1 week off schedule.

Child2 is a toddler, and does well on the 4-3-3-4 schedule.

Both kids didn't thrive on the other schedule. There were meltdowns and unusual defiance and irritability during transfer that lasted 1-2 days.

Both kids are in counseling to help with the disruption, yes?

 

[westanza]

Both kids are in counseling to help with the disruption, yes?

The older child is in counseling because Person C, one of his/her biological parents, is no longer parenting.

 

[stealth2]

Have ParentC's rights been actually, legally terminated?

 

[westanza]

Have ParentC's rights been actually, legally terminated?

Yes.

Parent A and Parent B are prolonging their divorce, in order for the Step-parent adoption to be finalized.