Deep breathes - the court will recognize "zombie" like, they are also very good at picking up on kids that are being coerced, bribed or threatened.
Look - I am not judging you in any way. You wanted hard questions, well here they are. I have an ex that won't communicate as well, so I do know what you mean. The court may, or may not see all of that. They don't look at that kind of stuff. They look at the facts presented.
You said the ER doctor would not return your calls. Did you go there? Did you contact the administrator? Did you request medical records? The court will look at what you did, or didn't do, when trying to determine the medical/phsycological condition of your son. Did your attorney request any of this?
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It's not the ER doctor that will not return my calls, it's the private Psychologist. No, there has not been time for my attorney to be involved (the appt was last week), but he will be. Why should he have to be involved if I have shared legal custody? Don't I have a say in my sons medical treatment and access to his doctors? And why does Dad not have to tell me one single thing about my sons medical treatments? I requested the psych to call me back to speak to her about 16yo's medical condition. (anger) I also requested, by fax accompanied with court orders, a copy of his medical records. There has not been time for mail and court is next week. This is all happening very fast as you will see by the dates below.
Who filed for this court action, and when? Is there a GAL involved? The court usually does not talk with the kids, unless one of the parents request it. And believe me, his attorney will try to say that you abandoned the kids by moving and don't really know the whole story. They will use your distance and the fact that you are only offering to move there if you get custody. They will try to say that if you were really concerned, you would already have moved - or not moved at all.
I filed and there is no GAL. My attorney said that the Judge will speak to the children in chambers. There is no human way that I could have moved to Indiana in this time frame. I filed on 2/6 and the hearing is 2/24. I did not say that I am only offering to move there if I get custody, sorry if I didn't make myself clear. We are planning to move to IN anyway, the children ASKING for me to fight for them has made the process more urgent. If we get custody, we will just move sooner. It's not like we can just pick up and move on a moments notice. We are doing the best we can and are sacrificing, for the best interest of the children, by moving sooner.
I am just warning you. They will use every thing they can to make HIM look like the better parent.