Is there a family member or mutual friend of yours that he has regular contact with? If not, when you change your phone number, don't give it to anyone. Over time, you can start to give it out, preferably one at a time this way if your X gets the number you may be able to determine who is giving it to him.
After the hearing, Maybe look into get a conversation recorder. When he calls tell him you are recording him and then will turn the information over to the poilce for his arrest of violation of a restraining order. **NOTE** if he is in Calif. You must make sure the tape includes you stating the fact that he is being recorded.
You should get a PO BOX, and have ALL mail going to that. He may have someone in a public position who is able to tell him where you are living (physical address), by having all your mail go to a po box, you are making it more difficult for him to find you. If someone asks you for your physical address, tell them the same thing I do... I am being stalked, and was advised not give give my home address to anyone. Most places will not argue with that, if they do, ask to speak with a manager.
Have your phone number unlisted, or if possible, maybe under someone else's name. HAve caller ID, if it's a number you do not recognize, don't answer. If you get continual hang ups, file a police report and have a trace put on your phone by the phone company, when someone calls and hangs up report it to the phone co. After a month, they will be able to determine if it was your X calling and hanging up or not. Either way they will tell you if the number is coming from the same person or not, and they will notify the police to contact that person.
On a personal note, I have a PO Box, no listed phone number and when I went to the DMV for my ID and DL, I gave an address of a friend as my residential address but had it sent to the po box, and no one could find me. I have all legal doc's going to that po box, and have been told it is a little harder to personally serve me through this mean.
If you have to, look into changing your social security number and DL/ID numbers, he may have these numbers and is one way he may be able to track you.
I hope it all works out.
[Edited by Ukiah on 03-14-2001 at 12:02 PM]